THE DIFFERENT STAGES OF MARRIAGE...

 

1. THE AMAZEMENT STAGE: This is the "wow" stage. Lots of new things to discover with your spouse. The newness, the freshness is so amazing. Sleeping on the same bed, wearing the same attire, cooking for him, doing house chores with her, bathing together. Wearing your dazzling wedding ring everywhere, turning people's head at the newest couple around. Loads and lots of fun. Sexual exploration and excitement. Being in control of your kitchen, feeding him and lots more. It's the honeymoon stage and it's so so beautiful.

2. THE IRRITATION STAGE: This is when you begin to notice weaknesses you have overlooked or blissfully wish they go away but didn't. The repetition of such weaknesses begins to work on your nerves and you are getting irritated: he snores a lot, she is slow in the kitchen, she belches loudly, he screams unnecessarily, she won't bathe before coming to bed or shave, he spends many hours watching football and ignores you when you talk. "What's just wrong with this guy?" You think aloud, well it's part of marriage.

3. THE ANGER STAGE: This is when the repetition of such weaknesses gets on your nerves and you display your anger. The introverted partners stuffs it in and either keep malice, avoid you or stubbornly continue with the irritating habit. It's the stage you begin to wonder: "have I really married the wrong guy?" "Have I married the wrong woman?" No, you did not, you are simply going through a phase together.

4. THE Resolution STAGE: When you both begin to face the reality of marriage and acknowledge your partner's weaknesses. You eventually realize anger and malice does not solve any problem and begins to find ways to deal with your differences, both of you begin to compromise here and there and adjust to each other.

5. THE ACCEPTANCE STAGE: When it dawned on you that some things are just part of your partner and may never change till Jesus comes. You resigned from anger, abuse and quarrel and choose to accept them, lovingly adjust to them and enjoy them regardless of their weaknesses.

6. THE RESTUL STAGE:This is the stage you permanently accept them with all their strengths, weaknesses, short comings and flaws and love them unconditionally regardless of what they do. This is real love -agape, divine and true. You reconnect emotionally, spiritually and physically at a deeper level and enjoy honey moon again while building a lasting marriage regardless of the challenges you face.

There is no perfect marriage. Every marriage goes through this stages. How you handle it will determine if you will come out bitter or better.

You don't have to abuse your spouse or keep malice if Christ is at the centre of your home and you obey the word of God daily.

Nevertheless, do not be disappointed if you go through the unpleasant stages in marriage. It is a phase and will surely end.

Handle your marriage with wisdom and keep loving regardless of the challenges you face. That is what will make your marriage a Heaven on earth experience.

Thanks for reading.

3 DARKEST SIDES OF WOMEN YOU DON'T KNOW

1. A woman can never love two men at the same time. It is always one. If you are not, you are not. There are no two ways around. That is why you usually see two women f1ght’ng for one man they love. A woman who loves you, smells everything that touches you including your clothes.

2. The s£¥ual desire in women is usually more than that of a man. Don't think it's only men that desired s£¥ more than women. Women desired s£¥ more than men only that it's in their nature to wait for men to ask for it. That is because women don't want to face rejection, embarrassment and insults no matter what they always want until someone saves them and take the blame.

3. Women don't keep secrets to someone they love no matter what you tell them. No matter what she says, wait till she meets someone she loves in bed, somebody who knows them more than you, somebody who knows what she's capable of doing, somebody who knows that she wouldn't hide anything from him; that's the person she will tell.

And, again, shyness and tears are not a valid effects to determine if she's a good woman, because a woman can fake it like a boss. They are capable of doing that.

When you cheat on her and she doesn't hæte you, she hætes that woman you ch£æted with. Ladies I'm sorry for exp0sing our secret.

Fso.

SOME HARDEST PART OF MARRIAGE YOU WON'T BE TOLD

 

 SOME HARDEST PART OF MARRIAGE YOU WON'T BE TOLD

Marriage is sweet when you examine it from a far, of those who have successful marriage or the lovey-dovey of newlyweds, but when you enter into, you will discover that what is behind number six is more than number seven. 

Many prepare so well for the romantic aspects of marriage, but very few groom themselves for the realities in marriage. Do you know that the hardest part of marriage plays a dominant role in marriage than the romantic moments?

However, what breaks marriage isn't the lack of romance, but the couple's inability to withstand the hardest part of marriage. 

There are some hard things about marriage that you are not likely to be told, but I will only share 5 of them with you.

1. Staying faithful

It's easy to abstain from sex as singles if you have not tasted how sweet sex is, but it's very difficult to stay faithful in marriage when you are denied sex for no just reason. 

The temptation to commit adultery is greater than the temptation to fornicate as singles. 

Because you now know how sex taste, seduction would come from those who are willing to give you or have a fling with you. In some cases, when your spouse becomes cold on sex matters, there are several others who want to give you a hot and sizzling sex.

You need more discipline to stay faithful in marriage to your spouse emotionally, and sexually especially in this age when cheating has become a norm. 

If you have not been faithful to stay sexually pure now that you are single, it will be very difficult for you to master it when you are married. 

Marriage doesn't cure adultery, self control does! 

2. Sexual Issues

See, it is wise that you keep yourself sexually pure till marriage - purity in thoughts, action and word. All those who are deceiving you that who virginity epp only want to destroy you. 

One of the hardest part about marriage which many cannot come by is on the issue of sex. One partner is a novice while the other is an Emeritus professor in lovemaking; one has a high sexual libido while the other can stay for months without it and still feel sane. 

Virginity helps you to be sexually discipline, it prevents you from undue and ungodly exposure to sex that could either make you hate it with perfect hatred or make you a maniac in it. 

3. Money matters

Since it's said that money answers all things, money also destroys many things. As money can spice up love in marriages, it can also ruin it. 

What is your perception about money? 

Can you pull your purse together or separately? 

As a woman, do you have the warped mentality of my money is my money, but your money is our money? 

As a man, are you ready to work and earn a living or you want to live on your wife's income while dictating how the money will be spent without bringing anything to the table? 

Can you open up to your partner about your financial life without secretly building an estate in the village while you feed on his or her money like a parasite? 

Until you two resolve this before marriage and in marriage, it is hard enough to crack the nut of your marital bliss. 

4. Unmet expectations

If you have been dreaming of having her remain a slim shady, but eventually after pregnancy, she became a size 15, how would you cope? 

If he had been the romantic and available man, but after marriage, the quest for green pasture took him miles away, can you survive this? 

It is wise and better to prepare for the toughest part of marriage so that you can cope with them when they come, surely they will come. As much as you prepare for sunshine, don't forget to prepare for storms when they come before rain falls. 

5. Handling differences 

Whether you agree or not, handling differences is one of the leading causes of divorce in marriage. Many marriages fail due to irreconcilable differences. 

How do you plan to reconcile your differences in marriage should they come? 

If he presses the toothpaste from the middle, and she had been raised to be meticulous by pressing it neatly from the base, can you tolerate this? 

If she likes the food cold or warm, and you prefer it hot with steaming heat, can you adjust? 

These and many others are the toughest part of marriage that you must brace up for. Wedding is just a day or two event but marriage is a lifetime journey. 

More than the excitement of the married life, more than the grandeur wedding ceremony, have you been transformed by the renewing of your mind to face any challenge in marriage when they come? 

Delay in child bearing, loss of job, relocation, in law issues, financial crisis, trying times or spiritual issues may come; you need to be prepared for whichever one life throws at you so you don't chicken out when they come. 

Marriage is haaaard, I'm not scaring you; it's just one of those truths you might not likely be told or you don't want to hear. Finding the right person to marry is hard, but staying married is the hardest in the face of life's realities. 

As much as you are preparing for the romantic sides, brew your mind for the hardest part so you can stand having done all when the flood descend, when the rain falls and the wind beats upon your union.

THE PURPOSE OF THE WIFE'S BREASTS

 

1. To excite the husband. Breasts does something to men

2. To console the husband. When the husband is low or tired, laying his head there comforts him.

3. To aid in pleasing the wife sexually. Breasts are one of the many ways a man has to please his wife.

4. To act as a pillow, he lays his head there and they catch up to talk

5. To give him something to play with. Men are playful with breasts 

6. To refresh him. Sucking the wife's nipples makes a man feel good

7. To delight him exclusively, knowing only he gets to see her naked breasts

8. To rest. Men can have a wonderful nap or quality time laying on the wife's bossom 

9. To offer support as she cleans his ears. Some men love their ears being cleaned by the wife. It is one of those simple things that makes life special 

10. To make a wife feel confident of her love. She feels good him laying on her chest in absolute trust and surrender 

11. To give him warmth especially when it is cold. Breasts are so warm

12. To give him a surface area to draw with his fingers as he talks. Some men dribble on the skin of the breasts as the two engage in heart to heart conversations

13. To give him sexual entertainment. Men love watching boobs move or jump up and down when she is riding on top, working out, doing chores or playing around. These are some of the little pleasures men live for

Lady, regardless of the size of your breasts, sagging or firm they mean so much to your husband. Let him enjoy.

Fso said so.

AN IMPOTENT MAN CRIES OUT OVER HIS WIFE'S PREGNANCY!

 A man suffering from an issue of impotence has recounted a sad experience involving his wife who got pregnant.The man revealed in a post online that he has been having an issue with ere.ctile dysfunction.

It had led to the end of his first marriage, and being 54, he got married to another wife who was 25.He noted that his wife insisted on having her own child or else she would leave the marriage.

According to him, he and his wife came to an agreement about allowing her see other people.

He revealed that his wife eventually took in for another man and his wife is insisting that he accepts the child as his, and introduce the child to his family as his own.

The embattled man stated that the issue has left him deeply saddened.

Please hide my name. My first wife and I divorced in 2019 and I decided to marry again in 2021. I am 54 and my new wife is 25. Since last year I got diagnosed with a condition that makes it hard for my ma.n.hood to be har.d. I have not touched my wife in the bedroom since December 2022. She wanted to take our child and leave but I asked her to stay. One of her conditions was for me to allow her to get intimate with other men. I agreed but asked her to sleep at home everyday and not date anyone who knows me. She doesn’t tell me what she gets up to but I can feel the smell sometimes when she comes home from wherever. It’s difficult but I was trying to get used to it until she told me in January this year that she is pregnant and I must pretend to be the father. My family is so happy about the pregnancy but I’m dying inside. I can’t tell anyone about my condition because it’s embarrassing. I feel like a corpse. The thought of suicide keeps crossing my mind. please I need your counsel.

Please drop your counsel on the comment section.

DEATH IN THE NAME OF LOVE, PT 2.

What wrong have I done to deserve this from you Chris, are you out of your mind?

I got exhausted taking care of you Chris, and as a I result I dosed off and the food on the fire got burnt a little and you thought the best way to resolve this is to lay your hands on me? Anyway am sorry but you know it wasn't intentional.

At this moment Chris became sober, drew her closer to himself in a loving embrace and assured her this kind of a thing won't happen again.

Well they moved on, as Bose buried the incident behind her after all Chris is the love of my life she thought to her self.

You know habit is like a smoke, and you know smoke won't just come up without a spark. Three months down the line, after the first incident, the devil came knocking again with his ugly face.

It was on a weekend both lovers went for an occasion, sighting an old school mate Bose went over the next roll of seats to meet with Kunle.

Wao look at you Bose you are now a big woman, you have transformed from that tiny little skinny girl I used to make fun of way back in school Kunle joked, with this they embraced.

Come over there let me introduce you to my man, Bose led Kunle to where her fiancee was seated and introduced both men. Hey Egbon Kunle I almost forgot our invitation card will be out soon, we are getting married very soon Bose with excitement told Kunle, and you must by all means come and grace the occasion with us, therefore they embraced each other again and Kunle left for his seat.

That embrace was the devil that open the cage for the fire of hell in Chris to consume his lover Bose.

Yet Chris kept his cool but you could feel his anger, you smell it, but he kept his cool waiting for the time they get home and alone.

Hmmmmm, what do you think will be Bose's lots when they get home? .... To be continued.

DEATH IN THE NAME OF LOVE. PART 1.

 This is a true life story of love gone sour and a warning to ladies to quietly leave a violent relationship before it becomes their obituary.

It was love at first sight when Chris (Not real Name) sets his eyes on Bose(Not real) Bose a beautiful damsel with a good paying job.

Infact their love was like a made in heaven kind of love, Chris too a young handsome guy with an Fmcg company as a senior manager, wasn't doing badly, both were comfortable in all ramifications.

The love between both souls was so intense that people around then wish to have partners like our love birds, they appear in same dressings on any occasions like they were officially married.

Trouble came knocking one day when Bose came to spend the weekend with her lover, this isn't the first time she will be spending the weekend with Chris, but this day something happened.

It was a busy Saturday for Bose in the house of her lover, as she normally does, cleaned the house, does his laundry and then cook his favorite for him every Saturday. This particular day she got really tired and so dozed off while the soup on the fire got burnt but not a write off .

It was dinner time, My love Bose said to him, please do manage the soup today it got burnt a little as I dozed off on the couch ok. Without a warning Chris launched series of ballistic verbal missiles at his lover Bose, calling her a careless idiot and before you could say hello a very hot slap landed on her face with a return "back hand").

Bose was stunned with her mouth opened wide in surprise while her hands held on to her checks.... To be continued.

MY BEST FRIEND DECIEVED ME, NOW SHE IS MARRIED TO HIM

Who can be trusted? The world is full of people who only on the outward admires and love you, but deep down inside them they are patiently waiting for the perfect time to eliminate you.

My name is Mary 28, and I have a bestie Chioma, indeed she is a sister from another mother that was how I regarded her until she really proved to me an enemy. There is nothing I do without carrying Chioma along, she knows all my plans, knows my parents, my siblings I mean everything about me, she can indeed predict me and be 98% of the time correct.

Then came Steve a tall lanky and handsome young man, Steve fair in complexion with great looks, works with one of these international NGO’s, his outward appearance indicates that life is good to him, from the cars he drives, the cloths he puts on and most especially the way he carry’s himself, surely he must the kind of a guy that will have all the ladies fighting each other just to get him.

Steve and I ran into each other at a supermarket and one thing led to another we exchanged contacts; I think the greatest mistake I made was telling Chioma and also introducing Steve to her. Steve kept asking me out and I kept turning him down, he promised me love and other material things, he brought me gifts, yet I kept turning him down.

My friend Chioma kept asking me not to sign in with him, not to appear cheap to him, that I should keep playing hard to get, that if he truly loves me as he said, he will keep coming no matter how long I keep him waiting. I never knew that there is a limit to how long love can wait, I never know that I was being deceived.

I kept this game of hard to get going, and I was indeed enjoying it, the attentions, I got from him, the pampering, the weekend outing name them, I don’t go outing alone with him without Chioma joining us, even to the cinema and to his house I will always go with my bestie Chioma.

Its been a year now since I have been playing hard to get with the full support of my friend, who will always tell me that its good for a lady to play hard, that it increases the value of the woman and that he will love and respect me the more, all these while I never knew Chioma was giving Steve  attention, care and all of it to Steve, I wish I knew better.

Truth is Steve is a nice guy and I have come to love him, I was just waiting for one last time for him to push forward his demand again, but I never got it, I waited for days weeks and the suddenly 3 months went by Steve never called or text.

I told Chioma about my issues, she only assured me that Steve was trying to relax a bit and get back himself, surely, he will come back to you she assured me. I couldn’t take this no more, so one Sunday evening I paid Steve an unannounced visitation and lo and behold Chioma was laying on the couch wearing a deadly bum-short and a see-through singlet like with no bra, what are you doing here I asked in anger and bitterness? Before she could outer a word, from the room Steve came out wearing boxers and a white singlet, oh it’s you Mary madam hard to get what a surprise visit, ‘are you surprised your friend is here? Well for your information she is my wife to be, in fact she is carrying my baby, and she is 3months gone”.

Steve but why? I asked with my legs wobbling, well she isn’t as tough and hard as you, I got tired of your hardness and the rest is history as you can see.

Well, the only thing I could remember was that I saw myself at the hospital, yes, I was sick inside of me, but the doctors couldn’t diagnose a thing. It wasn’t an easy pill for me to swallow but I had to swallow it as bitter and hard as it was, I had to move on, yeah it wasn’t as easy as any might think, yet I was able to put it all behind me, but I surely learnt my lesson the hard way. That was how I was deceived and betrayed by my bestie due to my ignorant and naiveness.

HE GOT ME PREGNANT, DENIED ME AND THE BABY, 5YEARS AFTER HE WANTS ME BACK.

 I was dating this guy but when I got pregnant for him, his parents forced him to deny the pregnancy and then sent him to the United States leaving me with the pregnancy. 

Two months later, I met another guy who decided to be with me even with someone else's pregnancy. He supported me all through pregnancy and after giving birth, he enrolled me in a training centre and paid for it all. It's been 5 years since we've been together, my whole family knows him.

 Now the problem is, my baby daddy is back. He has apologized to me and he is ready to take me back with his child. I must confess I'm still in love with him. He planned to take us to the States with him which is an opportunity for us. I want to go back with him but I'm afraid to hurt the other guy.

 How do I make him understand that he won't feel betrayed and hurt? He indeed made a lot of sacrifices for me, and it feels sad to be selfish but honestly, he is not my type.

 Right now am so confused I don't know what to do, please I need advice, please.

Confused girl.

SEX IN MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP. (MEN WAKE UP, DRIVE YOUR WOMEN CRAZY IN BED)

I MARRIED FOR SEX

You have to prepare her for lovemaking.

Set her in good mood.

Make her happy.

Settle the quarrel or fight between you both before you make an attempt of touching her.

Make sure you are clean and no sweat from either of you. There is a difference between lovemaking and sex

Lovemaking entails kissing, caressing and others(foreplay)

Sex is just bumping on her. 

African culture does not permit women to complain about their displeasure about the inner room.

We should not be self centered

Why will a man nag about his displeasure in the other room and the wife is forbidden to do so

We have lots of infidelity from both sides because of this

Lovemaking should be enjoyed by both parties.

It is not meant to be managed. 

Do not die in silence! 

Stop the hypocrisy! 

Stop the presence! 

I think women should learn to speak out...... 

"Aaah!"

He had an orgasm as he pushed himself deeper inside his wife. 

He paused on top of her as he took in the pleasure.

He reclined on his side of the bed. Satisfied.

He pulled up the blanket and covered himself, about to sleep.

"Really?

You are sleeping?" She asked him.

"Yes. Goodnight" he faintly said.

"What about my sexual needs?" She asked?????? 

He said nothing.

She pulled away the blanket from him.

"We need to talk" she told him.

He turned to face her.

"What is this about?"

He asked???

"This is about me being sexually frustrated.

Why do you men turn sex into just about you? Husbands like you make their wives feel used to only meet the sexual needs of the man. So you have cum and now you have no use for me? You left my body in the cold

You did not even cover me" she told him.

He looked at her.

"Do you think women do not want sex too?

I need sex! 

I need my orgasm! I need my pleasure! 

One of the big reasons I got married to you is for sex. 

Yes,I married you for love

I married you for companionship

To raise a family To be help mates but also for sex"

He sat up on the bed.

She sat to face him. 

I will not be shy about it. 

I am a sexual and sensual woman

I can not be married and not enjoy sex

Come on!!!!! 

This is marriage

I am entitled to sex with no inhibition. 

I am faithful to you and I thank you for being faithful to me

Faithfulness is not enough

I want an amazing sex life

I want my body to feel things"

He showed her his penis saying.....

Honey, my commando is down

He is down

"So what? 

If he is down you can not give me some sugar? 

You can not hold me and tell me how sexy I am

Lick me

Rub me down Suck me

Squeeze me Besides, there are tricks you can do to delay your orgasm if you are mindful about me" she said.

"Like what?"

He asked.

"Pause

Stop pumping when you feel you are almost cumming

Pull out when you are just about to cum and lick me up

Make me wetter buy yourself time Prolong your pleasure

Do not just pump in a hurry as if you are competing with Usain Bolt to beat a world record"

He laughed......

"Heeyaaa!

 You are laughing and I am sexually starving? 

Take your time. Love making is an art and be my artist

Paint my body with your tongue, fingers and hard commando. 

Do not be stingy. My vagina and clit has needs. 

I wish you men knew how a woman suffers when she is horny and not serviced

It is hard to go away

A sexually frustrated wife is a moody wife

While a serviced wife glows"

Today you have decided to speak your mind" he told her.

"I have to

I am not too proud to beg

One day my body will age

Sex will be impossible

I have a limited time to know what great sex is and only you can give me that as my husband. 

In Heaven, I do not think people will get married. 

So most likely there will be no sex in Heaven. Give me a tiny heaven here on earth

Drive my body crazy" said she. 

"I really love this side of you sexually aggressive. 

A woman who is bold enough to express her sexual needs is a major turn on

I suppose you men tend to only focus on Yourselves sexually because women tend to be passive about sex. Majority of wives are shy

They are too self conscious and just lay there

When you talk with such passion, I am getting hot for you" he said.

She laid on the bed, spread her legs and said "Good! 

Now less talking and more action. 

I am a horny woman in need of her husband. Tonight, take me to another world. Get creative"

He went between her legs and went down on her.

He played with her body

Touching on her.

The more he touched her, the harder he became again. 

They had another round of love making

This time, both she and he enjoyed it

May your marriage have a healthy sex life

Enjoy it while your wetness and hardness lasts.......

From the master himself,

Fso.

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ALL THAT ARE GOLD DOES NOT GLITTER (The Beautiful Love Story of How My Mom Nearly Missed The Love Of Her Life)

In 1982, My father was on a bus when a young lady in a nurse's uniform got on board. When the bus came to a stop, he walked up to her seat & put a 50ngwee coin in her hand & told her he would find her. 

My mom told me that she didn't pay him much attention that day on the bus because he looked old and rugged. At that time my dad had lost his job and didn't have much. He had defaulted on a loan and the bank had seized most of his property. and the toils of this life had worn him down. My mom was scared when this strange dirty looking man put a coin in her hand that she didn't say a word to him.

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My dad knew he would find her because there was only one clinic in the area at that time and so he figured she must work there.

So the next day he went to the clinic to look for her. He did not know her name and So he went to the sister in charge and described her. The sister in charge was so kind that she took my dad round the clinic to meet all the nurses she had on duty that day hoping he would recognize her but alas she was not among those on duty that day.

 After further description of her, the sister in charge concluded that the woman he was seeking was a young nurse by the name of Elizabeth and that she would be on duty the following day. 

My dad bid her goodbye with the promise that he would return the following day.

True to his word...the following day, my dad took the 2 hour walk from his farm to the clinic to find his mystery nurse.

The moment my mom got to the clinic, the sister in charge told her of the man who was looking for her, from the description of the man, my mom knew it was the man from the bus who had given her the coin.

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Around noon my dad reached the clinic, when my mom saw him coming, she was so embarrassed because of his appearance so she hid under a hospital bed. They looked for her but couldn't find her.

My dad chatted with the sister in charge for a few minutes then left.

He went to the clinic the following day & caught her unaware,  he introduced himself to her and spoke to her for some time, told her about himself & his interest in her.

she recalls how he wore the same pair of black canvas shoes that had a hole in them that allowed his pinkie toe to protrude. My mom was so embarrassed,  she couldn't  wait for him to leave.

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He kept on going to see her, sometimes she would tell her friends to lie to my dad that she wasn't around and he would go back. But sometimes he would find her unexpectedly and she would talk to him briefly and then make up an excuse to make him leave.

My dad followed her to the clinic for sometime and then he stopped. He saw she wasn't interested because of the cold shoulder she would give him and he knew the friends where lying when they said she wasn't there. So he stayed away. 

A week passed without him going there, and that started bothering my mom...she would stand outside the clinic looking at the long dusty road hoping to see him coming but he never did...all of a sudden,  his old  canvas shoes with a hole in them he wore each time he went there with the protruding pinkie toe didn't embarrass her no more...She realised she missed him.

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One day she decided to go to the sister in charge, she saw them chatting a number of times after she would blow him off and so she hoped she could help her find him.

The sister in charge who was alot older than my mom, sat her down and told her not to judge people by their outward appearances...she told my mom that she felt my dad was a good man who had just fallen on some tough times and that she should get to know him.

One day as my mom was seated with other nurses in the nurse's station,  she saw a lone figure coming up the long dusty road, it was my dad...oh she jumped up and ran to meet him at the road. She was so happy to see him.

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They spent the afternoon together and my mom told me how happy she was. He wore the same old worn out canvas shoes that had a hole, but that day she was seeing him through the eyes of love...she saw a man who she felt could love her better than the other men who had let her down before.

When he left, the sister in charge sat my mom down and told her about the proverbs 31 woman from the bible. She told her not to look at what he didn't have, but to concentrate on what was there & build from that. She told her that all my dad had was an old house on a farm but if she was wise, that was enough to sustain them. She told her to ask God for wisdom to use that land to be a blessing in his life".

My parents had a traditional marriage shortly after.

On her days off, my mom made a vegetable garden. She would carry the vegetables she grew with her to work at the clinic and people would buy. Her garden grew that she hired farm workers, with the profit she built small houses on the land and put them on rent. 

By the time I was 18, my mom had built 23 two roomed flats on our farm and had tenants. My mom bought cattle and would supply milk to people. 

My mom's exploits motivated my dad to also start farming. He started growing and supplying strawberries to supermarkets. My mom got early retirement from nursing to concentrate on farming, she would supply maize to National mealing and vegetables to shoprite. Together they worked and grew. It was rare to find my mom without my dad nearby.

I saw my parents working together and at the end of the day, I saw them praying together. 

In 2014 When my dad died, my mom asked me to write a tribute from her for his funeral, she told me that she was grateful he didn't give up on her...& that he decided to go back to the clinic one last time. 

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Many people will encounter true love at least once in their lifetime, but many will miss it or already missed it because the love God sent their way did not come in the packaging they wanted. 

Vanity & unrealistic expectations has made many people overlook the person who would have made their stay here on this earth a pleasant one.

They chose to love the wrong person because he or she had the right body, the right job, drove the right car or wore the right clothes & walked passed a love that was truly true just because it did not come in the "right" packaging. 

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My mom almost missed the love of her life because he didn't come in the right packaging...she was embarrassed of his appearance & financial situation & was scared what her family & friends would say.

But thank God for that sister in charge.

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The charm of beauty & the pride of life are often the fortress of loneliness & great sadness.

If u r ever given a choice....please choose someone who brings peace to your life rather than someone who excites you.

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From the Master Story Teller

MY HUSBAND IS A WOMANIZER, HOW CAN I STOP HIM PLEASE ADVISE.

 Dear Readers,

Am really frustrated and depressed, its just 5 years now since i got married to my husband, problem is he womanizes, although he actually takes good care of his family but i hate him sleeping around with other women.

This behaviour of his is really pushing me to the edge, what can i do to make him stop womanizing? is there any solution to this bad habit of his that is tearing me apart? 

Please readers i really need help as this too
is tearing our sex lives apart

Frustrated woman.

Relationship: Tips For Success.

Every one’s dream is to have s successfully relationship, but having a successful relationship doesn't just fall from the sky, there is work to be done, both parties involve have work to do, it shouldn’t be a one-sided thing, it involve commitment in all its definitions.

The following tips may be very helpful to you in improving your relationship (and be better prepared to meet the challenges along the way):

• Talk to each other and communicate your needs – don’t wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on with you, your partner isn’t a mind reader.

• If you have something to bring up, do it gently – going on the attack rarely achieves a positive outcome.

• Listen to each other – often we are so busy defending ourselves or making our own point that we don’t hear what our partner is saying. Let your partner know that you have heard them before you give them your response. It may help to take 5 deep breath before responding.

• Remember the positives about your partner – this helps protect your relationship. One critical comment needs 5 positive comments to counteract its effect. Think carefully before criticizing. If all you do is dwelling on the weakness or negative side of your partner, be rest assured that relationship is doomed already.

• Make repair attempts – if your attempts to talk about an issue don’t go as planned, try not to let the situation become even more negative (such as not talking for extended periods or ignoring the other person’s attempts). Saying sorry or touching your partner in a caring manner shows you care, even though you disagree.

• Spend time together – make your relationship a priority and make time for each other, even if you have to book it in. Regular ‘deposits in your relationship bank account’ will help protect your relationship and make it stronger.

• Work on feeling good about yourself – this will help the way you feel about your relationship.

• Accept and value differences in others, including your partner – we often choose people who have qualities and abilities we would like more of. This is one of the reasons why our relationships offer us significant opportunities to grow and develop as people. Remind yourself of this.

• Make plans – set goals for your relationship and plan for your future together. This shows that you are both in the relationship for the long term.

• Be supportive – try not to judge, criticize or blame each other; we are all human. Remind yourself that you are a team, and in order for the team to be successful, you each have to cheer the other on.

• Learn from arguments – accept that arguments will happen, and try to resolve them with respect. The strongest predictor of divorce is ‘contempt’, which is any action whereby your partner feels ‘put down’ by you, whether it is the tone of your voice or what you say. In arguments, we sometimes become overwhelmed and this often leads to behaviours that harm our relationship. 

• Stay calm during disagreements – or if this is not possible, take time out. Taking an ‘us’ perspective that prioritises the relationship rather than a ‘you and me’ perspective can be very useful.

• Be sexually considerate – be affectionate (sometimes a lingering kiss or a warm hug are just as important). Accept that individuals have different sex drives and sustaining a healthy and happy sex life requires negotiation. A reduction in a couple’s physical connection is often a warning sign of problems in a relationship.

• Be attentive – demonstrate your commitment to the relationship. It is what you do for someone that tells them that you love them. We tend to give our partner what we hope to receive but they may prefer another form of affection. Do they like gifts, quality time with you, a note or a cooked meal? Once you know what they like, make an effort to provide it.

• Enjoy yourself – have fun and celebrate your life together. Rituals can enhance your relationship. It’s also important to try new things as a couple. Doing fun activities together is very important, as often ‘deep and meaningful’ conversations about couple issues can turn into disagreements which leave you both feeling worse, not better. Fun activities are like glue.

• Be flexible – let your relationship grow and adapt as you both change.

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Sweet Revenge (Part 2 AND Final). I Became Pregnant and Homeless At 18, Today I am a Registered Nurse In The UK.

Time gradually rolled on, events kept happening many memories some faded away some no matter how hard I tried they don’t just bulge, they stayed with me and followed me wherever I go, and surely many of these memories will go down the grave with me. All these periods I never allowed memories of my father and my siblings to bother me, I was just focused on my life, focused on turning every mistakes and errors I made into success, I was just only concern about my future, my career as a nurse above all my little angel, my only source of joy and happiness Ayomide, she indeed was my priority, and all thanks to iyami, a stranger who took me like her own.

In no time, like yesterday I was done with my nursing programme, I almost went mad the day I was given my certificate, I couldn’t wait for the weekend to come so I can run home with my certificate and in joy, well surely the days went by, and the weekend came and I got home. It was on a market day the day I got home, I went straight to the market where Iyami was selling her vegetables, saw her sitting with Ayomide by her side, then in excitement I shouted IYAMMMIII MO TI SE TAN OOOO meaning my mother I am done, I hugged her so tightly, then I knelt down before her in appreciation and presented her the certificate, then with tears of joy she prayed for me while shoppers, neighbors
all looked on In admiration.

 

By now Ayomide was 7 years in age, how time flies, all these periods I never heard of James the guy who got me pregnant, he never cared to know what happened to the pregnancy anyway he wasn’t even on my mind. then I got a job in Akure with the help of the head nurse who was instrumental in getting me into nursing school, during one of my visit to my daughter and her grandmother, I “want us to talk” said Iyami hope no issue I replied, “no not at all” Just that I want you to go back to your father, if you can’t go alone I will go with you said iyami, go and make peace with him, go and see how your people are doing , Ayomide need to know her people please my daughter. Ok iyami have heard you I will think about it and when am ready I will let you know maybe it will be better if you come along, I said.

It took another 3 years that I made up my mind to go see my father in Lagos after 10 years I was chased out I was just 18 by then, by now Ayomide was 10 and I was 28.

On this said day, we got ready and off to Lagos we went, my father was surprised to see me, Dayo ran crazy with excitement hugging me tightly, after allowing all emotions to run dry, I introduced to my dad Iyami, as well as his granddaughter Ayomide, my dad was speechless, he tried to open his mouth to speak but nothing came out, I could see tears in my fathers eyes, he pulled us (Ayomide and myself) to himself in tears and apologised for his actions against me and he asked for my forgiveness at the end of the day we made peace. Truth is I love my dad like crazy, and was more than glad to see us back again, was more than excited when I heard him called me Araoluwa again.

We spent just a week with them in Lagos and thereafter I became a regular visitor to my father’s house, that was when I ran into James, he too asked for forgiveness sure I did forgive him, showed him his daughter but can’t have her, I will rather kill and go to jail than for James to have my daughter, may be over my dead body.

 Two years after I got employed, one Friday afternoon my boss called me into his office, asking me if I would be interested in practicing my nursing in the UK that there is a chance for him to present one candidate and he is recommending me based on my record, my joy new no bound in less than 8 months my travelling document was ready.

Every arrangement was made, I assured Iyami that as soon as I settle down well, I will be coming for Ayomide as well has herself, I could see the joy and excitement on her face, I smiled back saying to her, where I am you will be with me, you are going to live with me till your last day on earth.

A year and a half after I got to the Uk, by now I had already settled down, doing well in my job and earning good money as a registered nurse (RN), I did all the necessary document and in no time Ayomide and Iyami joined me over.

With the passage of time too, I brought my kid brother Dayo down here while I made sure that my dad and my stepmom lack nothing, I took over the responsibility of my half brother assuring him that if he behaves well, after his university studies he too will join us.

Well, I made peace with my stepmother, she apologized for her myopic thinking and inhuman behavior towards myself and Dayo, sure she is my stepmother there is need for peace to reign in the family and above all may God be praised who brought people into my life to help me up when I was struggling to climb the ladder of life. There is nothing as sweet as giving back to people good for evil and allow their conscience to deal with them the rest of their lives.

 

 

 

Sweet Revenge (Part 1). I Became Pregnant and Homeless At 18, Today I am a Registered Nurse In The UK.

                                                

This is my story, I once lived happily with my parents and Dayo my kid brother, in-fact my father had a very special love for me the reason being that according to him I looked like his mother, how died 10 years before I was born and so he named me Ara-oluwa (God’s wonder) and he fondly called me Ara.

The love, joy and happiness I experienced was cut short when I lost my mum to a mysterious illness that lasted just 3weeks. Life took a downward turn, my life that was once full of light suddenly became dim, well that was my lot, got no body to blame, took it in good fate, as I moved on with life.

I grew up into woman hood in no time, playing the role of the woman of the house, taking care of my dad as well as my kid brother Dayo. Woke up early to prepare breakfast for the house before running to school and the circle continued even after school hour, at just 14years of age I became the mummy of the house.

3 years down the line, my father brought in a woman introduced her has his wife to be, well I had no choice but to respect his desire, at least he deserve to be happy as a man, he needed to move on with his life, after all death have undo what life brought together. He can’t remain like this forever, he needed a woman to attend to him when we might have gone, well I would have called that prophet a liar from hell if ever there was a prophecy that life will become unbearable with my stepmother and that my dad will turn his back on me.

A  years after my step mother moved in with us she had a baby boy, and in no time we practically became the slave of the house, yes slaves in our father’s house, it got to a point that at the slightest mistake by either me or Dayo will automatically result to no dinner, many a night we went to bed with not dinner and my dad couldn’t do a thing about this, he just do as his new wife wished, in fact her wish was our daddy’s command.

I became a shadow of myself, my stepmother ensures that food whether raw or cooked were locked up, woe unto you if you fetch as small as a pinch of garri without her knowledge even my dad wont be able to stop the hurricane.

Things went on like these until I got pregnant at 18, surely I know this wouldn’t have happened if my mom were to be here with us, but due to the need to survive James who lived few blocks away from us became like a drop of water on the tongue of a thirsty soul in the desert and in the process of my association with him I got pregnant for him, that was the beginning of living in hell for me.

Due to the shame I brought to my dad yeah my dad and my kid brother as I owe no apologies to my step mother, my dad without thinking sent me out of his house, ensured I moved in with James, but my heart was broken when James clearly told me that he was not ready for fatherhood yet, that I want to ruin his life and that beside he wasn’t responsible for my pregnancy, one evening after much argument, James beat me to a pop and sent me out of the house that I want to ruin his life and shatter his dream, having nowhere to go, I called on Bisi a beautiful soul and a true friend, Bisi came around took me to her apartment, a one room apartment.

Bisi housed me for about 2 months when she suggested she take me to a village in Ondo state where she knew of a woman though elderly who will be ready to care for me. To this I trusted and agreed to her suggestion, that was how I found my self living with an unknown woman in a strange place, but I found peace, love and happiness there staying with this stranger of a woman.

All these while, none of my family members not even my father knew where I was, they never even bother looking for me except Bisi who comes around once in a while, all thanks to this helper of mine whom I fondly call Iyami (my Mother), the elderly woman that took me in.

Iyami used to be a vegetable seller and in no time, I joined her the business, helping her to hawk around selling her wares as this business was her (our only) source of income despite my pregnant state, I would ensure helped in selling off at least 80% of our vegetables. 6 months went by since I came to Iyami and on the 9th month with her help and other elderly women around I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl I named Ayomide ( My joy has come), 3 months after the arrival of Ayomide, Iyami advised I start selling vegetables, to enable me earn money so I can care for my little angel, that was how I ventured into vegetable selling which enabled me to care for my baby.

When Ayomide was 4 years old I confided in Iyami my dream of becoming a  nurse, that was how she took me to meet with the village head nurse in the health centre, and with her help ( the head nurse) I got the nursing school form in town, while waiting for the next academic season, I invested the little money I had made from selling vegetables into farming, and so I had no issues settling all necessary school bills. I continued farming in every farming season with Iyami helping me to oversee my investment as well as taking care of Ayomide, in fact she became a grandmother to my little baby, she really pampered her silly and never failed to come see them during weekends.

.... To be continued in part 2.

MY HUSBAND DUMPED ME FOR HIS EX-GIRL FRIEND, NOW HE WANTS ME BACK 3 YEARS AFTER.

 

I never knew it will end up in marriage, but somehow it did, we started out as casual friends after close of work one raining Friday while I find it difficult getting a cab to my destination like in a movie, he just showed up from nowhere, “hi young beauty, where are you heading to? Do you mind me to take you home” he queried? Do you know where am heading to? Well after much talk he was able to convince me and I hopped into his car but very cautious.

Am Johnson and what about you? Yetunde but friends call me Yety, in the course of our journey he brought out his Identity card, with that I got relaxed as he works as a chartered accountant with an accounting firm, well one thing led to another and the relationship blossomed.

Second year into our relationship we did our introduction, and 3 months thereafter we were married, it was a home full of laughter as we were blessed with a baby girl second year of our marriage, in the third year we had a baby boy who look so much like his father, trouble started when my husband started chatting late into the night even while we lay together on bed, and most often he goes out to receive phone calls.

Well each time I confront him about this he always explained it away that it’s all about business, things gradually moved from bad to worse when I bumped into him with another lady while I was fueling my car, I saw my husband with another lady holding hands coming out of an eatery, from where I was I observed how he opened the car door for this lady in question, an act he has never done for me since we got married, I watched them zoomed off.

That evening after dinner I confronted him about his action and before you could say hello, he flared up like a flame will do when petrol is poured into it, I apologized and slept off. I later realized that the lady I saw him with use to be his ex-girlfriend.

What ever happened, my once caring and loving husband turned a monster, he will just flare up at the slightest provocation, and later in stated keeping late nights an act he never did. One bad Saturday yes bad Saturday because that was the day I got the shock of my life. While resting on the couch I heard the door bell and I went to see who was at the door, behold it was the same lady I saw my husband with, I mean his ex. How may I help you I asked? Well with such demonic boldness she just went straight to the point, madam am pregnant for your husband, I got frozen up where I stood, I opened my mouth to talk, not a word came out.

I was able to bring out some words, well he isn’t at home yet I replied, I will wait till he comes she replied can I come in?

Not up to an hour my husband drove in and was not too surprise to see his August visitor, well long story short, my husband didn’t deny this lady nor her pregnancy, I was so heartbroken that I stayed in the hospital for a week. Before I returned home she had already moved into the house, things got to the extreme I couldn’t bear the pains and humiliation no more I moved out of the house with my kids, moved in with my eldest sister who was so supportive, who stood by me, gave me her shoulder to cry on. This pain went on for 3 years and my husband didn’t care about me nor his kids, all these years I remain strong for my kids, we just kept going through it all.

From nowhere after 3 years after, my husband started sending friends and some family members to come plead with me, asking for my forgiveness and that I should come back home, that his life is now upside down since I left. What happened to his new found love I asked? Well the lady recked him, made his life miserable, she forged his signature and ensure all his savings were transferred to an unknown account, what about her pregnancy I asked again? Well she lost the baby, they answered, well she used my husband and dumped him, together with her secret lover they have eloped to Canada.

Now my husband is fighting that I come back to his life may be to help put his life back on track again I guess after I almost lost my life, now am confuse what do I do readers?

 

Yetunde.

I THOUGHT CYNTHIA WAS A GOLD DIGGER. PART 2 AND CONCLUSSION

 I THOUGHT CYNTHIA WAS A GOLD DIGGER.

PART 2 AND CONCLUSSION

Each time I opened up the issues of us getting married, she will tell me to hold on a little that she wants to be done with her master’s degree, in no time she completed her national service. Six months after she came to me telling me she intends travelling abroad for her masters that she have been offered an admission in the UK on a scholarship by now my faith in her was gone, but due to the love I have for her, call it stupid and idiotic love you will be very correct, I sold off the only landed property and the car I have to assist her in travelling, by now friends and family were already talking of taking me for psychiatric examination.

After all, said and done Cynthia travelled to the UK for her master’s degree, with the help of family and friends she was able to raise enough money to pursue her dreams. At first we were always on video calls this went on for about six months then suddenly the communication line ceased and with this we lost touch.

Days became weeks and weeks ran into months, months gradually turned into years, we never heard from each other again, I fell into depression, I felt used, I was broke yes dead broke and to make matter as worse as hell I was deep in debt all thanks to Cynthia and my “demonic” love.

I became a laughing stock, my parents and siblings made life a living hell, it got so bad I couldn’t afford my rent thanks to Tunde my child hood friend who took me in, I would have committed suicide but for Tunde who gave me his shoulder to cry on, who made me see reasons to live and hope again.

It’s been two years now since Cynthia left for the Uk sure by now she is done with her master’s programme but I never heard from her again, even her parents were worried as they too were worried that they haven’t heard from their daughter.

One day after about two and a half years of her disappearance to the Uk, of course I have moved on, a client of mine came to my workshop to have his car fixed, in our conversations he said to me “Tony I learnt that Cynthia is in town” which Cynthia are you talking about I asked? Your girl of course he replied, I just moved on doing my job of fixing his car like I didn’t hear what he said.

One afternoon while I was in the pit fixing a client’s car, I heard a familiar female voice, asking for Paddy Mi (my Guy) for that’s how she call me, at first I thought I was dreaming, Where is Paddy Mi (My guy) that was when I came out of the pit and standing before me was Cynthia totally transformed and her beauty by now was glowing like the sun. before I could say hey, Cynthia shouted paddy mi with her hands wide opened not minding my dirty overall, she jumped on my, clinging to me so tightly, and she sobbed profusely, it was at that moment I knew I took the right decision in giving her all help she needed.

It was indeed a great reunion, that was when I understood better the feelings his father had when the prodigal son returned. Right there and then she said to me Paddy mi (my guy) I am ready now, we can get married now, like a planned movie and as fate would have it, I saw a man who was passing by hawking earrings and other female accessories from him I bought a very cheap ring and in the presence of all at the workshop even with my dirty overall I proposed to her and she said a very load YES.

Many things happened during my studies, she said well we have all the time to talk about those things she said when I asked why the break in communication. Well I will be retuning back to the UK in two months’ time but not without you and not without us getting married, I still thought I was dreaming hearing these lines of hers.

Yes, “I mean it she said,” I have helped you secure a job as a mechanic in an auto company and you are going to resume work in the UK.

The marriage was conduct first was the registry then we had the traditional marriage as well as Church wedding, two months came we got to the UK the job I got was a mind blowing job and more so my field of specialty. We settled down in the UK and today we are blessed with two lovely kids a boy and a girl.

 

 

  

 

I THOUGHT CYNTHIA WAS A GOLD DIGGER.

 

I THOUGHT CYNTHIA WAS A GOLD DIGGER.

(PART 1)

It was love at first sight when I set my eyes on Cynthia at a friend’s party, she has got the most beautiful sets of eye balls as well as good dentations, she looked so pretty and the dress she wore that day made her too hot to resist.

She had the shape I will best describe as the mermaid figure, beautiful lips ebony black beauty. Somehow with courage I walked up to her as she tends to walk away into a waiting cab. Excuse me lady I asked politely, adjusting her flowing pinky gown with one hand and with the other holding her to match bag tightly as if her life depends on it, one would think she was the daughter of world richest man, from her appearance. “How may I help you bros”? she asked but with respect,

 Well I am Tony an auto mechanic and you I fired back, “I am Cynthia a student in the university” she replied thereafter we exchanged numbers while she drove off in her hired cab.

That night I couldn’t sleep as thoughts of Cynthia occupied the whole of my thinking, she could have turned me down, she could have just snub me at the hearing of the word auto mechanic as most of these slay queens living fake lives would have done, but no she spoke with me with all respect gave her number, there is something about this girl I thought to myself.

Six months down the line, by now we have become best of friends, my girl called to tell me she will be coming from school to spend the weekend at my place, at first I thought I was dreaming, what do you say I asked again over the tele phone? “I will be coming to spend the weekend at you place” she repeated by now I was super excited, that was how my girl started coming over to my place at least 2 weekends in a month.

On the evening of the first night Cynthia came to my place, I stood by the door as I watched her bathing, I couldn’t resist her ravaging curves, I could see her in her glory, full of beauty, I didn’t know when I joined her, that evening we made love like crazy, it was so full of passion, mind blowing and electrifying.

Well as she progressed in her studies at the university I was absolutely responsible for her every expenses as she came from an average family, from her school fees to the least toiletries, this became an issue between me, friends and family members. Their argument is, how can I be responsible for a girl who is not even my wife yet?  I was called all manner of names of a truth this “venture” took its toll on me as I was drained financially, sponsoring a girl I don’t even know if she will marry me at the end, do you really know if she is just using you as a ladder to climb high? All these were thought I battled with every day well I just kept doing it like an idiot, like a man under a spell.

There was a particular time my mom fell sick, it got so bad that I couldn’t afford to pay her medical bills, it got to a point I thought of ending this whole Cynthia business.

in the midst of all these, she graduated with good grades and was preparing for her compulsory national service, well I did what I could to assist her by now she could see the zeal in me gradually running low like a working engine that is gradually running out of fuel, no day passes without her professing her undying love for me, but each time I bring up the issue of marriage she will always tell me to go slow that she have a dream of going abroad for her masters, at this juncture as far as I was concern I was just a vehicle that carried her to her destination.

TO BE CONTINUED