HE GOT ME PREGNANT, DENIED ME AND THE BABY, 5YEARS AFTER HE WANTS ME BACK.

 I was dating this guy but when I got pregnant for him, his parents forced him to deny the pregnancy and then sent him to the United States leaving me with the pregnancy. 

Two months later, I met another guy who decided to be with me even with someone else's pregnancy. He supported me all through pregnancy and after giving birth, he enrolled me in a training centre and paid for it all. It's been 5 years since we've been together, my whole family knows him.

 Now the problem is, my baby daddy is back. He has apologized to me and he is ready to take me back with his child. I must confess I'm still in love with him. He planned to take us to the States with him which is an opportunity for us. I want to go back with him but I'm afraid to hurt the other guy.

 How do I make him understand that he won't feel betrayed and hurt? He indeed made a lot of sacrifices for me, and it feels sad to be selfish but honestly, he is not my type.

 Right now am so confused I don't know what to do, please I need advice, please.

Confused girl.

SEX IN MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP. (MEN WAKE UP, DRIVE YOUR WOMEN CRAZY IN BED)

I MARRIED FOR SEX

You have to prepare her for lovemaking.

Set her in good mood.

Make her happy.

Settle the quarrel or fight between you both before you make an attempt of touching her.

Make sure you are clean and no sweat from either of you. There is a difference between lovemaking and sex

Lovemaking entails kissing, caressing and others(foreplay)

Sex is just bumping on her. 

African culture does not permit women to complain about their displeasure about the inner room.

We should not be self centered

Why will a man nag about his displeasure in the other room and the wife is forbidden to do so

We have lots of infidelity from both sides because of this

Lovemaking should be enjoyed by both parties.

It is not meant to be managed. 

Do not die in silence! 

Stop the hypocrisy! 

Stop the presence! 

I think women should learn to speak out...... 

"Aaah!"

He had an orgasm as he pushed himself deeper inside his wife. 

He paused on top of her as he took in the pleasure.

He reclined on his side of the bed. Satisfied.

He pulled up the blanket and covered himself, about to sleep.

"Really?

You are sleeping?" She asked him.

"Yes. Goodnight" he faintly said.

"What about my sexual needs?" She asked?????? 

He said nothing.

She pulled away the blanket from him.

"We need to talk" she told him.

He turned to face her.

"What is this about?"

He asked???

"This is about me being sexually frustrated.

Why do you men turn sex into just about you? Husbands like you make their wives feel used to only meet the sexual needs of the man. So you have cum and now you have no use for me? You left my body in the cold

You did not even cover me" she told him.

He looked at her.

"Do you think women do not want sex too?

I need sex! 

I need my orgasm! I need my pleasure! 

One of the big reasons I got married to you is for sex. 

Yes,I married you for love

I married you for companionship

To raise a family To be help mates but also for sex"

He sat up on the bed.

She sat to face him. 

I will not be shy about it. 

I am a sexual and sensual woman

I can not be married and not enjoy sex

Come on!!!!! 

This is marriage

I am entitled to sex with no inhibition. 

I am faithful to you and I thank you for being faithful to me

Faithfulness is not enough

I want an amazing sex life

I want my body to feel things"

He showed her his penis saying.....

Honey, my commando is down

He is down

"So what? 

If he is down you can not give me some sugar? 

You can not hold me and tell me how sexy I am

Lick me

Rub me down Suck me

Squeeze me Besides, there are tricks you can do to delay your orgasm if you are mindful about me" she said.

"Like what?"

He asked.

"Pause

Stop pumping when you feel you are almost cumming

Pull out when you are just about to cum and lick me up

Make me wetter buy yourself time Prolong your pleasure

Do not just pump in a hurry as if you are competing with Usain Bolt to beat a world record"

He laughed......

"Heeyaaa!

 You are laughing and I am sexually starving? 

Take your time. Love making is an art and be my artist

Paint my body with your tongue, fingers and hard commando. 

Do not be stingy. My vagina and clit has needs. 

I wish you men knew how a woman suffers when she is horny and not serviced

It is hard to go away

A sexually frustrated wife is a moody wife

While a serviced wife glows"

Today you have decided to speak your mind" he told her.

"I have to

I am not too proud to beg

One day my body will age

Sex will be impossible

I have a limited time to know what great sex is and only you can give me that as my husband. 

In Heaven, I do not think people will get married. 

So most likely there will be no sex in Heaven. Give me a tiny heaven here on earth

Drive my body crazy" said she. 

"I really love this side of you sexually aggressive. 

A woman who is bold enough to express her sexual needs is a major turn on

I suppose you men tend to only focus on Yourselves sexually because women tend to be passive about sex. Majority of wives are shy

They are too self conscious and just lay there

When you talk with such passion, I am getting hot for you" he said.

She laid on the bed, spread her legs and said "Good! 

Now less talking and more action. 

I am a horny woman in need of her husband. Tonight, take me to another world. Get creative"

He went between her legs and went down on her.

He played with her body

Touching on her.

The more he touched her, the harder he became again. 

They had another round of love making

This time, both she and he enjoyed it

May your marriage have a healthy sex life

Enjoy it while your wetness and hardness lasts.......

From the master himself,

Fso.

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ALL THAT ARE GOLD DOES NOT GLITTER (The Beautiful Love Story of How My Mom Nearly Missed The Love Of Her Life)

In 1982, My father was on a bus when a young lady in a nurse's uniform got on board. When the bus came to a stop, he walked up to her seat & put a 50ngwee coin in her hand & told her he would find her. 

My mom told me that she didn't pay him much attention that day on the bus because he looked old and rugged. At that time my dad had lost his job and didn't have much. He had defaulted on a loan and the bank had seized most of his property. and the toils of this life had worn him down. My mom was scared when this strange dirty looking man put a coin in her hand that she didn't say a word to him.

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My dad knew he would find her because there was only one clinic in the area at that time and so he figured she must work there.

So the next day he went to the clinic to look for her. He did not know her name and So he went to the sister in charge and described her. The sister in charge was so kind that she took my dad round the clinic to meet all the nurses she had on duty that day hoping he would recognize her but alas she was not among those on duty that day.

 After further description of her, the sister in charge concluded that the woman he was seeking was a young nurse by the name of Elizabeth and that she would be on duty the following day. 

My dad bid her goodbye with the promise that he would return the following day.

True to his word...the following day, my dad took the 2 hour walk from his farm to the clinic to find his mystery nurse.

The moment my mom got to the clinic, the sister in charge told her of the man who was looking for her, from the description of the man, my mom knew it was the man from the bus who had given her the coin.

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Around noon my dad reached the clinic, when my mom saw him coming, she was so embarrassed because of his appearance so she hid under a hospital bed. They looked for her but couldn't find her.

My dad chatted with the sister in charge for a few minutes then left.

He went to the clinic the following day & caught her unaware,  he introduced himself to her and spoke to her for some time, told her about himself & his interest in her.

she recalls how he wore the same pair of black canvas shoes that had a hole in them that allowed his pinkie toe to protrude. My mom was so embarrassed,  she couldn't  wait for him to leave.

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He kept on going to see her, sometimes she would tell her friends to lie to my dad that she wasn't around and he would go back. But sometimes he would find her unexpectedly and she would talk to him briefly and then make up an excuse to make him leave.

My dad followed her to the clinic for sometime and then he stopped. He saw she wasn't interested because of the cold shoulder she would give him and he knew the friends where lying when they said she wasn't there. So he stayed away. 

A week passed without him going there, and that started bothering my mom...she would stand outside the clinic looking at the long dusty road hoping to see him coming but he never did...all of a sudden,  his old  canvas shoes with a hole in them he wore each time he went there with the protruding pinkie toe didn't embarrass her no more...She realised she missed him.

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One day she decided to go to the sister in charge, she saw them chatting a number of times after she would blow him off and so she hoped she could help her find him.

The sister in charge who was alot older than my mom, sat her down and told her not to judge people by their outward appearances...she told my mom that she felt my dad was a good man who had just fallen on some tough times and that she should get to know him.

One day as my mom was seated with other nurses in the nurse's station,  she saw a lone figure coming up the long dusty road, it was my dad...oh she jumped up and ran to meet him at the road. She was so happy to see him.

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They spent the afternoon together and my mom told me how happy she was. He wore the same old worn out canvas shoes that had a hole, but that day she was seeing him through the eyes of love...she saw a man who she felt could love her better than the other men who had let her down before.

When he left, the sister in charge sat my mom down and told her about the proverbs 31 woman from the bible. She told her not to look at what he didn't have, but to concentrate on what was there & build from that. She told her that all my dad had was an old house on a farm but if she was wise, that was enough to sustain them. She told her to ask God for wisdom to use that land to be a blessing in his life".

My parents had a traditional marriage shortly after.

On her days off, my mom made a vegetable garden. She would carry the vegetables she grew with her to work at the clinic and people would buy. Her garden grew that she hired farm workers, with the profit she built small houses on the land and put them on rent. 

By the time I was 18, my mom had built 23 two roomed flats on our farm and had tenants. My mom bought cattle and would supply milk to people. 

My mom's exploits motivated my dad to also start farming. He started growing and supplying strawberries to supermarkets. My mom got early retirement from nursing to concentrate on farming, she would supply maize to National mealing and vegetables to shoprite. Together they worked and grew. It was rare to find my mom without my dad nearby.

I saw my parents working together and at the end of the day, I saw them praying together. 

In 2014 When my dad died, my mom asked me to write a tribute from her for his funeral, she told me that she was grateful he didn't give up on her...& that he decided to go back to the clinic one last time. 

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Many people will encounter true love at least once in their lifetime, but many will miss it or already missed it because the love God sent their way did not come in the packaging they wanted. 

Vanity & unrealistic expectations has made many people overlook the person who would have made their stay here on this earth a pleasant one.

They chose to love the wrong person because he or she had the right body, the right job, drove the right car or wore the right clothes & walked passed a love that was truly true just because it did not come in the "right" packaging. 

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My mom almost missed the love of her life because he didn't come in the right packaging...she was embarrassed of his appearance & financial situation & was scared what her family & friends would say.

But thank God for that sister in charge.

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The charm of beauty & the pride of life are often the fortress of loneliness & great sadness.

If u r ever given a choice....please choose someone who brings peace to your life rather than someone who excites you.

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From the Master Story Teller

MY HUSBAND IS A WOMANIZER, HOW CAN I STOP HIM PLEASE ADVISE.

 Dear Readers,

Am really frustrated and depressed, its just 5 years now since i got married to my husband, problem is he womanizes, although he actually takes good care of his family but i hate him sleeping around with other women.

This behaviour of his is really pushing me to the edge, what can i do to make him stop womanizing? is there any solution to this bad habit of his that is tearing me apart? 

Please readers i really need help as this too
is tearing our sex lives apart

Frustrated woman.

Relationship: Tips For Success.

Every one’s dream is to have s successfully relationship, but having a successful relationship doesn't just fall from the sky, there is work to be done, both parties involve have work to do, it shouldn’t be a one-sided thing, it involve commitment in all its definitions.

The following tips may be very helpful to you in improving your relationship (and be better prepared to meet the challenges along the way):

• Talk to each other and communicate your needs – don’t wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on with you, your partner isn’t a mind reader.

• If you have something to bring up, do it gently – going on the attack rarely achieves a positive outcome.

• Listen to each other – often we are so busy defending ourselves or making our own point that we don’t hear what our partner is saying. Let your partner know that you have heard them before you give them your response. It may help to take 5 deep breath before responding.

• Remember the positives about your partner – this helps protect your relationship. One critical comment needs 5 positive comments to counteract its effect. Think carefully before criticizing. If all you do is dwelling on the weakness or negative side of your partner, be rest assured that relationship is doomed already.

• Make repair attempts – if your attempts to talk about an issue don’t go as planned, try not to let the situation become even more negative (such as not talking for extended periods or ignoring the other person’s attempts). Saying sorry or touching your partner in a caring manner shows you care, even though you disagree.

• Spend time together – make your relationship a priority and make time for each other, even if you have to book it in. Regular ‘deposits in your relationship bank account’ will help protect your relationship and make it stronger.

• Work on feeling good about yourself – this will help the way you feel about your relationship.

• Accept and value differences in others, including your partner – we often choose people who have qualities and abilities we would like more of. This is one of the reasons why our relationships offer us significant opportunities to grow and develop as people. Remind yourself of this.

• Make plans – set goals for your relationship and plan for your future together. This shows that you are both in the relationship for the long term.

• Be supportive – try not to judge, criticize or blame each other; we are all human. Remind yourself that you are a team, and in order for the team to be successful, you each have to cheer the other on.

• Learn from arguments – accept that arguments will happen, and try to resolve them with respect. The strongest predictor of divorce is ‘contempt’, which is any action whereby your partner feels ‘put down’ by you, whether it is the tone of your voice or what you say. In arguments, we sometimes become overwhelmed and this often leads to behaviours that harm our relationship. 

• Stay calm during disagreements – or if this is not possible, take time out. Taking an ‘us’ perspective that prioritises the relationship rather than a ‘you and me’ perspective can be very useful.

• Be sexually considerate – be affectionate (sometimes a lingering kiss or a warm hug are just as important). Accept that individuals have different sex drives and sustaining a healthy and happy sex life requires negotiation. A reduction in a couple’s physical connection is often a warning sign of problems in a relationship.

• Be attentive – demonstrate your commitment to the relationship. It is what you do for someone that tells them that you love them. We tend to give our partner what we hope to receive but they may prefer another form of affection. Do they like gifts, quality time with you, a note or a cooked meal? Once you know what they like, make an effort to provide it.

• Enjoy yourself – have fun and celebrate your life together. Rituals can enhance your relationship. It’s also important to try new things as a couple. Doing fun activities together is very important, as often ‘deep and meaningful’ conversations about couple issues can turn into disagreements which leave you both feeling worse, not better. Fun activities are like glue.

• Be flexible – let your relationship grow and adapt as you both change.

Leave your comments and contributions on the comment section.

Sweet Revenge (Part 2 AND Final). I Became Pregnant and Homeless At 18, Today I am a Registered Nurse In The UK.

Time gradually rolled on, events kept happening many memories some faded away some no matter how hard I tried they don’t just bulge, they stayed with me and followed me wherever I go, and surely many of these memories will go down the grave with me. All these periods I never allowed memories of my father and my siblings to bother me, I was just focused on my life, focused on turning every mistakes and errors I made into success, I was just only concern about my future, my career as a nurse above all my little angel, my only source of joy and happiness Ayomide, she indeed was my priority, and all thanks to iyami, a stranger who took me like her own.

In no time, like yesterday I was done with my nursing programme, I almost went mad the day I was given my certificate, I couldn’t wait for the weekend to come so I can run home with my certificate and in joy, well surely the days went by, and the weekend came and I got home. It was on a market day the day I got home, I went straight to the market where Iyami was selling her vegetables, saw her sitting with Ayomide by her side, then in excitement I shouted IYAMMMIII MO TI SE TAN OOOO meaning my mother I am done, I hugged her so tightly, then I knelt down before her in appreciation and presented her the certificate, then with tears of joy she prayed for me while shoppers, neighbors
all looked on In admiration.

 

By now Ayomide was 7 years in age, how time flies, all these periods I never heard of James the guy who got me pregnant, he never cared to know what happened to the pregnancy anyway he wasn’t even on my mind. then I got a job in Akure with the help of the head nurse who was instrumental in getting me into nursing school, during one of my visit to my daughter and her grandmother, I “want us to talk” said Iyami hope no issue I replied, “no not at all” Just that I want you to go back to your father, if you can’t go alone I will go with you said iyami, go and make peace with him, go and see how your people are doing , Ayomide need to know her people please my daughter. Ok iyami have heard you I will think about it and when am ready I will let you know maybe it will be better if you come along, I said.

It took another 3 years that I made up my mind to go see my father in Lagos after 10 years I was chased out I was just 18 by then, by now Ayomide was 10 and I was 28.

On this said day, we got ready and off to Lagos we went, my father was surprised to see me, Dayo ran crazy with excitement hugging me tightly, after allowing all emotions to run dry, I introduced to my dad Iyami, as well as his granddaughter Ayomide, my dad was speechless, he tried to open his mouth to speak but nothing came out, I could see tears in my fathers eyes, he pulled us (Ayomide and myself) to himself in tears and apologised for his actions against me and he asked for my forgiveness at the end of the day we made peace. Truth is I love my dad like crazy, and was more than glad to see us back again, was more than excited when I heard him called me Araoluwa again.

We spent just a week with them in Lagos and thereafter I became a regular visitor to my father’s house, that was when I ran into James, he too asked for forgiveness sure I did forgive him, showed him his daughter but can’t have her, I will rather kill and go to jail than for James to have my daughter, may be over my dead body.

 Two years after I got employed, one Friday afternoon my boss called me into his office, asking me if I would be interested in practicing my nursing in the UK that there is a chance for him to present one candidate and he is recommending me based on my record, my joy new no bound in less than 8 months my travelling document was ready.

Every arrangement was made, I assured Iyami that as soon as I settle down well, I will be coming for Ayomide as well has herself, I could see the joy and excitement on her face, I smiled back saying to her, where I am you will be with me, you are going to live with me till your last day on earth.

A year and a half after I got to the Uk, by now I had already settled down, doing well in my job and earning good money as a registered nurse (RN), I did all the necessary document and in no time Ayomide and Iyami joined me over.

With the passage of time too, I brought my kid brother Dayo down here while I made sure that my dad and my stepmom lack nothing, I took over the responsibility of my half brother assuring him that if he behaves well, after his university studies he too will join us.

Well, I made peace with my stepmother, she apologized for her myopic thinking and inhuman behavior towards myself and Dayo, sure she is my stepmother there is need for peace to reign in the family and above all may God be praised who brought people into my life to help me up when I was struggling to climb the ladder of life. There is nothing as sweet as giving back to people good for evil and allow their conscience to deal with them the rest of their lives.

 

 

 

Sweet Revenge (Part 1). I Became Pregnant and Homeless At 18, Today I am a Registered Nurse In The UK.

                                                

This is my story, I once lived happily with my parents and Dayo my kid brother, in-fact my father had a very special love for me the reason being that according to him I looked like his mother, how died 10 years before I was born and so he named me Ara-oluwa (God’s wonder) and he fondly called me Ara.

The love, joy and happiness I experienced was cut short when I lost my mum to a mysterious illness that lasted just 3weeks. Life took a downward turn, my life that was once full of light suddenly became dim, well that was my lot, got no body to blame, took it in good fate, as I moved on with life.

I grew up into woman hood in no time, playing the role of the woman of the house, taking care of my dad as well as my kid brother Dayo. Woke up early to prepare breakfast for the house before running to school and the circle continued even after school hour, at just 14years of age I became the mummy of the house.

3 years down the line, my father brought in a woman introduced her has his wife to be, well I had no choice but to respect his desire, at least he deserve to be happy as a man, he needed to move on with his life, after all death have undo what life brought together. He can’t remain like this forever, he needed a woman to attend to him when we might have gone, well I would have called that prophet a liar from hell if ever there was a prophecy that life will become unbearable with my stepmother and that my dad will turn his back on me.

A  years after my step mother moved in with us she had a baby boy, and in no time we practically became the slave of the house, yes slaves in our father’s house, it got to a point that at the slightest mistake by either me or Dayo will automatically result to no dinner, many a night we went to bed with not dinner and my dad couldn’t do a thing about this, he just do as his new wife wished, in fact her wish was our daddy’s command.

I became a shadow of myself, my stepmother ensures that food whether raw or cooked were locked up, woe unto you if you fetch as small as a pinch of garri without her knowledge even my dad wont be able to stop the hurricane.

Things went on like these until I got pregnant at 18, surely I know this wouldn’t have happened if my mom were to be here with us, but due to the need to survive James who lived few blocks away from us became like a drop of water on the tongue of a thirsty soul in the desert and in the process of my association with him I got pregnant for him, that was the beginning of living in hell for me.

Due to the shame I brought to my dad yeah my dad and my kid brother as I owe no apologies to my step mother, my dad without thinking sent me out of his house, ensured I moved in with James, but my heart was broken when James clearly told me that he was not ready for fatherhood yet, that I want to ruin his life and that beside he wasn’t responsible for my pregnancy, one evening after much argument, James beat me to a pop and sent me out of the house that I want to ruin his life and shatter his dream, having nowhere to go, I called on Bisi a beautiful soul and a true friend, Bisi came around took me to her apartment, a one room apartment.

Bisi housed me for about 2 months when she suggested she take me to a village in Ondo state where she knew of a woman though elderly who will be ready to care for me. To this I trusted and agreed to her suggestion, that was how I found my self living with an unknown woman in a strange place, but I found peace, love and happiness there staying with this stranger of a woman.

All these while, none of my family members not even my father knew where I was, they never even bother looking for me except Bisi who comes around once in a while, all thanks to this helper of mine whom I fondly call Iyami (my Mother), the elderly woman that took me in.

Iyami used to be a vegetable seller and in no time, I joined her the business, helping her to hawk around selling her wares as this business was her (our only) source of income despite my pregnant state, I would ensure helped in selling off at least 80% of our vegetables. 6 months went by since I came to Iyami and on the 9th month with her help and other elderly women around I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl I named Ayomide ( My joy has come), 3 months after the arrival of Ayomide, Iyami advised I start selling vegetables, to enable me earn money so I can care for my little angel, that was how I ventured into vegetable selling which enabled me to care for my baby.

When Ayomide was 4 years old I confided in Iyami my dream of becoming a  nurse, that was how she took me to meet with the village head nurse in the health centre, and with her help ( the head nurse) I got the nursing school form in town, while waiting for the next academic season, I invested the little money I had made from selling vegetables into farming, and so I had no issues settling all necessary school bills. I continued farming in every farming season with Iyami helping me to oversee my investment as well as taking care of Ayomide, in fact she became a grandmother to my little baby, she really pampered her silly and never failed to come see them during weekends.

.... To be continued in part 2.