DANGEROUS SIGNS IN A RELATIONSHIP..

 

The most dangerous time in your marriage is not when you're fighting — it's when you stop.

Not because you resolved the issues.

Not because you found peace.

Not because you've reached understanding — but because you've given up trying.

The silence in your marriage is not peace; it's a sign of surrender.

You avoid deep conversations to "keep the peace."

You stop sharing how you really feel because "what's the point?"

You choose distance over disagreement.

You’d rather be alone than risk another argument.

You're building emotional walls instead of bridges.

Here’s the devastating truth:

Every time you choose silence over speaking up, you’re not preserving your marriage — you're preparing for its end.

The most painful part?

By the time most couples realize this, they're living parallel lives under the same roof.

What your marriage actually needs:

Safe spaces for hard conversations

The courage to be uncomfortable together

The willingness to hear hard truths

The commitment to grow through conflict

The vulnerability to stay engaged, even when it hurts.

Remember:

Arguments aren't what kill marriages.

It’s the silence that follows — when both partners stop believing change is possible.

SECRET OF A WOMAN..

                  SECRET OF A WOMAN.

               (Men Love Your Woman)

At one time, a newly married young man was shouting at his wife and his father called him aside and said to him, 'We only shout at people our shouts or threats can frighten. But not to your wife. 

The way you are shouting, you are giving away your power to your wife. Your threats make her stronger. Most men believe that when a woman is threatened, she gets subdued, but women are not changed with fear.

 A woman may stay quiet when a man is threatening and shouting at her but she is not sitting down inside her. She is evaluating the man's weakness and how to subdue him rather.

Cast your mind back to those days men used to beat their wives flippantly at slightest provocations, today most of those men are older and they are suffering consequences

 Those women their husband were beating years back are the ones enjoying the marriage with their children today, the mothers have their children's sympathy, the men are at the receiving end.

Let it become clear to men that the way into a woman's heart is not to try to threaten and subdue her. God spoke to men and said, 'Husbands, love your wife'. Do you need an elaborate explanation of this scripture? Love makes women weak. When you truly love a woman and show it, she will submit to you without qualms. But when a woman has sensed that she is just like your toy, you just want to use her or you are domineering and controlling, the spirit of rebellion takes over her. She might not physically stand on your way but she is plotting coup against you and one day, you will sit and watch her and her children force you to follow their rules or die quicker.

Almost all the great and fierce kings you know died before their wives. They lived all through their lives threatening their fellow men and wives. They were able to kill most of their strong fellow men but all the women they threatened stayed alive. Women know how to survive against men. 

The 'lion' in men does not scare women or get them to submit to you, it is love that conquers a woman, not force or threats. This might subdue fellow men, but not your wife. Women naturally know how to survive pains. They can walk to the fearful serpent and make their demands. They have resilient spirit.

There are things women fear but not the lion inside men. They can submit and respect their men so foolishly that you imagine that there is no gut inside them. They have guts men don't have, love your woman into submission.

Men don't have compatible or cordial relationship with women by showing the lion inside them. God knew women before us and begged that we show love than threats. He gave men the formula, recipe for a blissful, joyous and fulfilled homes, LOVE YOUR WIFE!

This formula of loving your wife will help you win her. When a woman is loved, you break all her guts and she stays in your hands. A woman can do anything to stay with a man who is honestly in love with Her.

 Talk gently to your wife, love her, pet her, don't shout at her, and you will win her and make your points! Do not arrogantly display your weakness as a man by shouting.

Side Chick VS Wife. How To Win Your Man's Heart.

 SIDE CHICK VS WIFE (A MUST READ!!!)

HOW TO WIN YOUR HUSBAND’S HEART:

A brief telephone conversation with a housewife and her hubby's side chick.

Madam: Hello Angela, please, leave my husband alone.

Angela: Hello Madam, sorry I will, but kindly permit me to collect the money he promised me so as to enable me open a saloon.

Madam:  Money? How much is the money my husband promised you?

*Angela:* (afraid.) Erm... erm... it is 250k ma.

*Madam:* Just 250k? Alright, send me your account details.

Alert wole gbam!_ 

Angela: (surprised.) Wow... madam, you sent 450k instead of 250k.

Madam: Yes 250k for the saloon, and 200k for defining your purpose of sleeping with my husband. Don't worry, I was once in your shoes. Please, just leave my husband alone.

Angela:  Thanks and God bless you Ma. But Madam, I have confidential issues to discuss with you Ma.

Madam: Yes, go on...

Angela: (coughs.) Madam, your husband told me that each time you return from work, you just take your bath and go to bed without preparing his meal. You don't as well have romantic discussion with him except you want something important to collect from him.

Madam: (surprised.) He told you that?

Angela:Yes madam. Well ma, let me tell you how I handle him on bed, so that he won't think of going out to look for young girls like us as I have already quit my relationship with your husband.

Madam: (anxious.) Ok, go on.

Angela: Madam, cook soups and vegetables over the weekend. Store in the freezer. Make food and serve with the warmed soup from the freezer. Also, sometimes, once it is 6pm and you are not yet home due to the nature of your work, try to call him and ask him what he will eat even if you won't be home on time to prepare it. Are you with me Ma?

Madam: Yes, I am with you.

Angela: On your way home, visit a good restaurant and get delicious food, then see how best you can get home before him. Dish the food, and since he is not the kitchen type, he won't know if you bought it. Even if he eventually knows, he will appreciate the fact that you care about him

Madam: Hmnn... Go on.

Angela: Then, make sure you wear catapult or g-string pant and a transparent night gown. Lay carelessly in the sitting room as he is eating. Ma, ensure you are wearing his favorite colour pant. He likes white and pink.

Madam: (crazy.) What? _Mo gbe!_ 

Angela: Don't be surprised madam. I am not through with what I am saying or should I stop here? 

Madam:No, no, please go on. 

Angela: Then as soon as he stands from the dinning, ask him how he spent his day, and prophesy to him that tomorrow will be better and that great things will surely come his way. 

Always be positive in your conversation. He told me you always spend such moment either in gossiping about others with him, pressing phone or reminding him of family challenges when you know what he need is rest or words of encouragement after a stressful day.

Madam: (sobs.) Jesus! _Aye mi temi bami!_ So he told you this too?

Angela: Yes, he did. Madam, I am not through. See, after that scene, ensure he takes his bath, and if possible give him body spray and prepare the bed for him to sleep. Don't ask him for sex as you always do according to him. 

Madam: (flabbergasted.) This is serious!

Angela: Very serious Madam. As you make your way to join him on bed, ensure you remove your pant, and sleep close to him with your night gown. Also ensure you use body spray too. Because he complains too much about you not smelling nice.

You can use good body spray. Check the supermarkets for your choice. Concentrate on your armpits too. Madam, after 10 minutes, stylishly look at his manhood. I bet you, the idiot will be protesting. But because he is tired, his strength won't be there to take the first step.

Madam:(shakes her head as tears drop from her eyes.) Angela, how old are you?

Angela: I am 23 years old Ma.

Madam: I have to tell you this, my younger brother deserves a wife material like you. Please, I will transfer another 100k to you. I have a younger brother who is single and rich and I promise not to tell him about your escapade with my husband. I will give your number to him. You are a very nice girl because you just restored my home.

After few days, the husband credited Angela N250k, and in return he got this text message; _"Sir, thanks for this kind gesture. But I think this money is no longer needed. Your children deserve the best. Starving them while you give me this huge amount is unacceptable and God won't forgive us. Have you consider the joy or smile you will put on your wife's face if you give her this money? Please send me your account details. I don't need the money."_

The man replied; _"Your message is touching, never mind, keep the money and move on with your life."_ 

Many of you, yes you married women today, are responsible for all what you are passing through in your marriages. Women now compete with their husbands at home instead of remaining loyal and submissive. Be a royal queen, mother, and wife.

My advise to our married women is that, it is better to approach your hubby's side chick(s) just like the woman did in the above play, then try to know those areas you aren't doing well which the side chick applied. Apply the tricks too to win your man's heart. 

When I say side chick, I am not referring to those night stand girls that he pays after sex. I mean that very particular lady that takes his time more, and make him feel at home each time they are together. She is the only opponent you have. If you are not careful, she will take over your home without using charm. 

That's part of feminine psychology. 

As the saying goes, beauty will do you good by taking you to paradise, but only good attitude will keep you there, or sustain your stay.

May God give us wisdom and intelligence.

Let me also add this; a beautiful face without intelligence is like a cosmetic of foolishness! Women, use your natural brains and whatever you have to protect your marriage. 

HOW TO WIN YOUR HUSBAND’S HEART

1. Discover his favourite pet name and call him by that.

2. Allow him exercise his authority as the head of the family.

3. Do not challenge him when he is hurt.

4. Be silent when he is angry. You can go back to him in his sober moment with apology and explain why you behaved the way that annoyed him.

5. Be quick to say “I am sorry dear”. Whenever you offend him, insist on his forgiveness and kiss him when he does.

6. Speak good of him before his friends and siblings.

7. Honour his mother and opinions. 

8. Insist that he buys gift for his parents and be sure that he will do same for your parents.

9. Surprise him with his favourite dish, especially when he has no enough money at hand

10. Do not allow the maids to serve him food when you are at home, because you may lose him to them. And don't allow outsiders to clean your matrimonial room. Its risky.

11. Give him warm reception with an embrace when he returns. Collect his luggage and help unclothe him.

12. Smile when you look at him and give him occasional perks when you are out socially.

13. Praise him before your children.

14. Wash his back while he is in the tub or shower.

15. Put love note in his lunch or purse.

16. Phone and tell him that you miss him.

17. Dial his number and on hearing “hello” just tell him, “I love you.”

18. If he is a public figure or politician, gently wake him at the early hours of the morning and romance him to the point of demand. He will not be enticed by any other woman that day.

19. Tell him how lucky you are to have him as your husband. Respect him and heed to those attitudes he dislikes.

20. Give him a hug for no reason.

21. Appreciate God for the Adam of your life. Implement this law that every morning your family will wake up and pray. It brings unity.

22. Value your husband because you may not have the second chance to love him. Pray to God to protect him.

23. If you practice all these, your husband will be afraid to cheat on you; even if he does, his mind will not be at rest.

Kindly share it to others for knowledge sake. Save a marriage!

MY FEMALE BOSS HAS TURNED ME TO HER SEX TOY.

 HELP MY FEMALE BOSS HAS TURNED ME TO HER SEX TOY.

"I work in a firm where my boss is a woman. A few months after I started, I began noticing her attitude toward me. 

There were times when she asked me to find unnecessary

 files and provide reports that weren’t my responsibility. She gave me tasks that should have been handled by the department head. 

One of my colleagues, a woman I’m close with, and I used to go home together since we lived in the same neighborhood. 

We were very close, and some people even speculated that there was something more between us. 

However, everything changed when my boss saw us eating together one day. Shortly after, my colleague was transferred to another department. 

Things took another turn when my boss moved me from my original department and made me her personal assistant.

A few days into the role, I made the mistake of not arranging a write-up for a conference she was attending. When she returned, she locked the door and scolded me, threatening to fire me. I pleaded with her, hoping to avoid losing my job. 

She was furious, and I couldn’t understand why. She gave me two options: either 50% of my salary would be cut, or I would do whatever she wanted. 

I urgently needed money to process a visa for my brother and to handle some paperwork. So, I told her I would do whatever she asked. She then presented me with a submission agreement, and I signed it. 

As I walked into her office the next morning, she stood up, locked the door, sat back at her sit and asked me to crawl under her table to where she was sitting. I was surprised but I remembered the agreement and went on my knees. I crawled under the table and she asked me to l!ck her pr!vate part. I did it and she kept moaning. 

Later when she asked me to stop and crawl out, she was smiling. She told me that I should be thankful she allowed me to lick her.  

She then said I should call her mama whenever we’re alone together. I felt ashamed always, even though her private part was always clean and wet, and her skin smelt nice because of her powerful perfume, my mind was not accepting everything that’s going on. 

Some days after, I got an alert of 6 times my salary. She asked me if I received the money and I said yes. 

She told me that’s the reward of being good in bed, we’ve had $ex couple of times and she enjoyed every bit of it. 

She then said if I keep being a good boy, I will get more. Then this woman bent, removed her panty and hanged it on my neck, she whispered into my ears that she owns me. 

She has given me a lot of money already but I’m planning to resign without letting anybody in the office know about it. I feel my sanity and freedom is important as a man and I shouldn’t have started this. 

I also need the money so I’m confused on what to do. She knows my house and she could come to my house and create a scene. 

Should I resign and move on with my life? I’m scared she might use the agreement against me. At this point what should I do to break free??

John (Not real Name).