MY HUSBAND IS A WOMANIZER, HOW CAN I STOP HIM PLEASE ADVISE.

 Dear Readers,

Am really frustrated and depressed, its just 5 years now since i got married to my husband, problem is he womanizes, although he actually takes good care of his family but i hate him sleeping around with other women.

This behaviour of his is really pushing me to the edge, what can i do to make him stop womanizing? is there any solution to this bad habit of his that is tearing me apart? 

Please readers i really need help as this too
is tearing our sex lives apart

Frustrated woman.

Relationship: Tips For Success.

Every one’s dream is to have s successfully relationship, but having a successful relationship doesn't just fall from the sky, there is work to be done, both parties involve have work to do, it shouldn’t be a one-sided thing, it involve commitment in all its definitions.

The following tips may be very helpful to you in improving your relationship (and be better prepared to meet the challenges along the way):

• Talk to each other and communicate your needs – don’t wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on with you, your partner isn’t a mind reader.

• If you have something to bring up, do it gently – going on the attack rarely achieves a positive outcome.

• Listen to each other – often we are so busy defending ourselves or making our own point that we don’t hear what our partner is saying. Let your partner know that you have heard them before you give them your response. It may help to take 5 deep breath before responding.

• Remember the positives about your partner – this helps protect your relationship. One critical comment needs 5 positive comments to counteract its effect. Think carefully before criticizing. If all you do is dwelling on the weakness or negative side of your partner, be rest assured that relationship is doomed already.

• Make repair attempts – if your attempts to talk about an issue don’t go as planned, try not to let the situation become even more negative (such as not talking for extended periods or ignoring the other person’s attempts). Saying sorry or touching your partner in a caring manner shows you care, even though you disagree.

• Spend time together – make your relationship a priority and make time for each other, even if you have to book it in. Regular ‘deposits in your relationship bank account’ will help protect your relationship and make it stronger.

• Work on feeling good about yourself – this will help the way you feel about your relationship.

• Accept and value differences in others, including your partner – we often choose people who have qualities and abilities we would like more of. This is one of the reasons why our relationships offer us significant opportunities to grow and develop as people. Remind yourself of this.

• Make plans – set goals for your relationship and plan for your future together. This shows that you are both in the relationship for the long term.

• Be supportive – try not to judge, criticize or blame each other; we are all human. Remind yourself that you are a team, and in order for the team to be successful, you each have to cheer the other on.

• Learn from arguments – accept that arguments will happen, and try to resolve them with respect. The strongest predictor of divorce is ‘contempt’, which is any action whereby your partner feels ‘put down’ by you, whether it is the tone of your voice or what you say. In arguments, we sometimes become overwhelmed and this often leads to behaviours that harm our relationship. 

• Stay calm during disagreements – or if this is not possible, take time out. Taking an ‘us’ perspective that prioritises the relationship rather than a ‘you and me’ perspective can be very useful.

• Be sexually considerate – be affectionate (sometimes a lingering kiss or a warm hug are just as important). Accept that individuals have different sex drives and sustaining a healthy and happy sex life requires negotiation. A reduction in a couple’s physical connection is often a warning sign of problems in a relationship.

• Be attentive – demonstrate your commitment to the relationship. It is what you do for someone that tells them that you love them. We tend to give our partner what we hope to receive but they may prefer another form of affection. Do they like gifts, quality time with you, a note or a cooked meal? Once you know what they like, make an effort to provide it.

• Enjoy yourself – have fun and celebrate your life together. Rituals can enhance your relationship. It’s also important to try new things as a couple. Doing fun activities together is very important, as often ‘deep and meaningful’ conversations about couple issues can turn into disagreements which leave you both feeling worse, not better. Fun activities are like glue.

• Be flexible – let your relationship grow and adapt as you both change.

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