SOME HARDEST PART OF MARRIAGE YOU WON'T BE TOLD

 

 SOME HARDEST PART OF MARRIAGE YOU WON'T BE TOLD

Marriage is sweet when you examine it from a far, of those who have successful marriage or the lovey-dovey of newlyweds, but when you enter into, you will discover that what is behind number six is more than number seven. 

Many prepare so well for the romantic aspects of marriage, but very few groom themselves for the realities in marriage. Do you know that the hardest part of marriage plays a dominant role in marriage than the romantic moments?

However, what breaks marriage isn't the lack of romance, but the couple's inability to withstand the hardest part of marriage. 

There are some hard things about marriage that you are not likely to be told, but I will only share 5 of them with you.

1. Staying faithful

It's easy to abstain from sex as singles if you have not tasted how sweet sex is, but it's very difficult to stay faithful in marriage when you are denied sex for no just reason. 

The temptation to commit adultery is greater than the temptation to fornicate as singles. 

Because you now know how sex taste, seduction would come from those who are willing to give you or have a fling with you. In some cases, when your spouse becomes cold on sex matters, there are several others who want to give you a hot and sizzling sex.

You need more discipline to stay faithful in marriage to your spouse emotionally, and sexually especially in this age when cheating has become a norm. 

If you have not been faithful to stay sexually pure now that you are single, it will be very difficult for you to master it when you are married. 

Marriage doesn't cure adultery, self control does! 

2. Sexual Issues

See, it is wise that you keep yourself sexually pure till marriage - purity in thoughts, action and word. All those who are deceiving you that who virginity epp only want to destroy you. 

One of the hardest part about marriage which many cannot come by is on the issue of sex. One partner is a novice while the other is an Emeritus professor in lovemaking; one has a high sexual libido while the other can stay for months without it and still feel sane. 

Virginity helps you to be sexually discipline, it prevents you from undue and ungodly exposure to sex that could either make you hate it with perfect hatred or make you a maniac in it. 

3. Money matters

Since it's said that money answers all things, money also destroys many things. As money can spice up love in marriages, it can also ruin it. 

What is your perception about money? 

Can you pull your purse together or separately? 

As a woman, do you have the warped mentality of my money is my money, but your money is our money? 

As a man, are you ready to work and earn a living or you want to live on your wife's income while dictating how the money will be spent without bringing anything to the table? 

Can you open up to your partner about your financial life without secretly building an estate in the village while you feed on his or her money like a parasite? 

Until you two resolve this before marriage and in marriage, it is hard enough to crack the nut of your marital bliss. 

4. Unmet expectations

If you have been dreaming of having her remain a slim shady, but eventually after pregnancy, she became a size 15, how would you cope? 

If he had been the romantic and available man, but after marriage, the quest for green pasture took him miles away, can you survive this? 

It is wise and better to prepare for the toughest part of marriage so that you can cope with them when they come, surely they will come. As much as you prepare for sunshine, don't forget to prepare for storms when they come before rain falls. 

5. Handling differences 

Whether you agree or not, handling differences is one of the leading causes of divorce in marriage. Many marriages fail due to irreconcilable differences. 

How do you plan to reconcile your differences in marriage should they come? 

If he presses the toothpaste from the middle, and she had been raised to be meticulous by pressing it neatly from the base, can you tolerate this? 

If she likes the food cold or warm, and you prefer it hot with steaming heat, can you adjust? 

These and many others are the toughest part of marriage that you must brace up for. Wedding is just a day or two event but marriage is a lifetime journey. 

More than the excitement of the married life, more than the grandeur wedding ceremony, have you been transformed by the renewing of your mind to face any challenge in marriage when they come? 

Delay in child bearing, loss of job, relocation, in law issues, financial crisis, trying times or spiritual issues may come; you need to be prepared for whichever one life throws at you so you don't chicken out when they come. 

Marriage is haaaard, I'm not scaring you; it's just one of those truths you might not likely be told or you don't want to hear. Finding the right person to marry is hard, but staying married is the hardest in the face of life's realities. 

As much as you are preparing for the romantic sides, brew your mind for the hardest part so you can stand having done all when the flood descend, when the rain falls and the wind beats upon your union.

THE PURPOSE OF THE WIFE'S BREASTS

 

1. To excite the husband. Breasts does something to men

2. To console the husband. When the husband is low or tired, laying his head there comforts him.

3. To aid in pleasing the wife sexually. Breasts are one of the many ways a man has to please his wife.

4. To act as a pillow, he lays his head there and they catch up to talk

5. To give him something to play with. Men are playful with breasts 

6. To refresh him. Sucking the wife's nipples makes a man feel good

7. To delight him exclusively, knowing only he gets to see her naked breasts

8. To rest. Men can have a wonderful nap or quality time laying on the wife's bossom 

9. To offer support as she cleans his ears. Some men love their ears being cleaned by the wife. It is one of those simple things that makes life special 

10. To make a wife feel confident of her love. She feels good him laying on her chest in absolute trust and surrender 

11. To give him warmth especially when it is cold. Breasts are so warm

12. To give him a surface area to draw with his fingers as he talks. Some men dribble on the skin of the breasts as the two engage in heart to heart conversations

13. To give him sexual entertainment. Men love watching boobs move or jump up and down when she is riding on top, working out, doing chores or playing around. These are some of the little pleasures men live for

Lady, regardless of the size of your breasts, sagging or firm they mean so much to your husband. Let him enjoy.

Fso said so.

AN IMPOTENT MAN CRIES OUT OVER HIS WIFE'S PREGNANCY!

 A man suffering from an issue of impotence has recounted a sad experience involving his wife who got pregnant.The man revealed in a post online that he has been having an issue with ere.ctile dysfunction.

It had led to the end of his first marriage, and being 54, he got married to another wife who was 25.He noted that his wife insisted on having her own child or else she would leave the marriage.

According to him, he and his wife came to an agreement about allowing her see other people.

He revealed that his wife eventually took in for another man and his wife is insisting that he accepts the child as his, and introduce the child to his family as his own.

The embattled man stated that the issue has left him deeply saddened.

Please hide my name. My first wife and I divorced in 2019 and I decided to marry again in 2021. I am 54 and my new wife is 25. Since last year I got diagnosed with a condition that makes it hard for my ma.n.hood to be har.d. I have not touched my wife in the bedroom since December 2022. She wanted to take our child and leave but I asked her to stay. One of her conditions was for me to allow her to get intimate with other men. I agreed but asked her to sleep at home everyday and not date anyone who knows me. She doesn’t tell me what she gets up to but I can feel the smell sometimes when she comes home from wherever. It’s difficult but I was trying to get used to it until she told me in January this year that she is pregnant and I must pretend to be the father. My family is so happy about the pregnancy but I’m dying inside. I can’t tell anyone about my condition because it’s embarrassing. I feel like a corpse. The thought of suicide keeps crossing my mind. please I need your counsel.

Please drop your counsel on the comment section.

DEATH IN THE NAME OF LOVE, PT 2.

What wrong have I done to deserve this from you Chris, are you out of your mind?

I got exhausted taking care of you Chris, and as a I result I dosed off and the food on the fire got burnt a little and you thought the best way to resolve this is to lay your hands on me? Anyway am sorry but you know it wasn't intentional.

At this moment Chris became sober, drew her closer to himself in a loving embrace and assured her this kind of a thing won't happen again.

Well they moved on, as Bose buried the incident behind her after all Chris is the love of my life she thought to her self.

You know habit is like a smoke, and you know smoke won't just come up without a spark. Three months down the line, after the first incident, the devil came knocking again with his ugly face.

It was on a weekend both lovers went for an occasion, sighting an old school mate Bose went over the next roll of seats to meet with Kunle.

Wao look at you Bose you are now a big woman, you have transformed from that tiny little skinny girl I used to make fun of way back in school Kunle joked, with this they embraced.

Come over there let me introduce you to my man, Bose led Kunle to where her fiancee was seated and introduced both men. Hey Egbon Kunle I almost forgot our invitation card will be out soon, we are getting married very soon Bose with excitement told Kunle, and you must by all means come and grace the occasion with us, therefore they embraced each other again and Kunle left for his seat.

That embrace was the devil that open the cage for the fire of hell in Chris to consume his lover Bose.

Yet Chris kept his cool but you could feel his anger, you smell it, but he kept his cool waiting for the time they get home and alone.

Hmmmmm, what do you think will be Bose's lots when they get home? .... To be continued.

DEATH IN THE NAME OF LOVE. PART 1.

 This is a true life story of love gone sour and a warning to ladies to quietly leave a violent relationship before it becomes their obituary.

It was love at first sight when Chris (Not real Name) sets his eyes on Bose(Not real) Bose a beautiful damsel with a good paying job.

Infact their love was like a made in heaven kind of love, Chris too a young handsome guy with an Fmcg company as a senior manager, wasn't doing badly, both were comfortable in all ramifications.

The love between both souls was so intense that people around then wish to have partners like our love birds, they appear in same dressings on any occasions like they were officially married.

Trouble came knocking one day when Bose came to spend the weekend with her lover, this isn't the first time she will be spending the weekend with Chris, but this day something happened.

It was a busy Saturday for Bose in the house of her lover, as she normally does, cleaned the house, does his laundry and then cook his favorite for him every Saturday. This particular day she got really tired and so dozed off while the soup on the fire got burnt but not a write off .

It was dinner time, My love Bose said to him, please do manage the soup today it got burnt a little as I dozed off on the couch ok. Without a warning Chris launched series of ballistic verbal missiles at his lover Bose, calling her a careless idiot and before you could say hello a very hot slap landed on her face with a return "back hand").

Bose was stunned with her mouth opened wide in surprise while her hands held on to her checks.... To be continued.

MY BEST FRIEND DECIEVED ME, NOW SHE IS MARRIED TO HIM

Who can be trusted? The world is full of people who only on the outward admires and love you, but deep down inside them they are patiently waiting for the perfect time to eliminate you.

My name is Mary 28, and I have a bestie Chioma, indeed she is a sister from another mother that was how I regarded her until she really proved to me an enemy. There is nothing I do without carrying Chioma along, she knows all my plans, knows my parents, my siblings I mean everything about me, she can indeed predict me and be 98% of the time correct.

Then came Steve a tall lanky and handsome young man, Steve fair in complexion with great looks, works with one of these international NGO’s, his outward appearance indicates that life is good to him, from the cars he drives, the cloths he puts on and most especially the way he carry’s himself, surely he must the kind of a guy that will have all the ladies fighting each other just to get him.

Steve and I ran into each other at a supermarket and one thing led to another we exchanged contacts; I think the greatest mistake I made was telling Chioma and also introducing Steve to her. Steve kept asking me out and I kept turning him down, he promised me love and other material things, he brought me gifts, yet I kept turning him down.

My friend Chioma kept asking me not to sign in with him, not to appear cheap to him, that I should keep playing hard to get, that if he truly loves me as he said, he will keep coming no matter how long I keep him waiting. I never knew that there is a limit to how long love can wait, I never know that I was being deceived.

I kept this game of hard to get going, and I was indeed enjoying it, the attentions, I got from him, the pampering, the weekend outing name them, I don’t go outing alone with him without Chioma joining us, even to the cinema and to his house I will always go with my bestie Chioma.

Its been a year now since I have been playing hard to get with the full support of my friend, who will always tell me that its good for a lady to play hard, that it increases the value of the woman and that he will love and respect me the more, all these while I never knew Chioma was giving Steve  attention, care and all of it to Steve, I wish I knew better.

Truth is Steve is a nice guy and I have come to love him, I was just waiting for one last time for him to push forward his demand again, but I never got it, I waited for days weeks and the suddenly 3 months went by Steve never called or text.

I told Chioma about my issues, she only assured me that Steve was trying to relax a bit and get back himself, surely, he will come back to you she assured me. I couldn’t take this no more, so one Sunday evening I paid Steve an unannounced visitation and lo and behold Chioma was laying on the couch wearing a deadly bum-short and a see-through singlet like with no bra, what are you doing here I asked in anger and bitterness? Before she could outer a word, from the room Steve came out wearing boxers and a white singlet, oh it’s you Mary madam hard to get what a surprise visit, ‘are you surprised your friend is here? Well for your information she is my wife to be, in fact she is carrying my baby, and she is 3months gone”.

Steve but why? I asked with my legs wobbling, well she isn’t as tough and hard as you, I got tired of your hardness and the rest is history as you can see.

Well, the only thing I could remember was that I saw myself at the hospital, yes, I was sick inside of me, but the doctors couldn’t diagnose a thing. It wasn’t an easy pill for me to swallow but I had to swallow it as bitter and hard as it was, I had to move on, yeah it wasn’t as easy as any might think, yet I was able to put it all behind me, but I surely learnt my lesson the hard way. That was how I was deceived and betrayed by my bestie due to my ignorant and naiveness.

HE GOT ME PREGNANT, DENIED ME AND THE BABY, 5YEARS AFTER HE WANTS ME BACK.

 I was dating this guy but when I got pregnant for him, his parents forced him to deny the pregnancy and then sent him to the United States leaving me with the pregnancy. 

Two months later, I met another guy who decided to be with me even with someone else's pregnancy. He supported me all through pregnancy and after giving birth, he enrolled me in a training centre and paid for it all. It's been 5 years since we've been together, my whole family knows him.

 Now the problem is, my baby daddy is back. He has apologized to me and he is ready to take me back with his child. I must confess I'm still in love with him. He planned to take us to the States with him which is an opportunity for us. I want to go back with him but I'm afraid to hurt the other guy.

 How do I make him understand that he won't feel betrayed and hurt? He indeed made a lot of sacrifices for me, and it feels sad to be selfish but honestly, he is not my type.

 Right now am so confused I don't know what to do, please I need advice, please.

Confused girl.