DEATH IN THE NAME OF LOVE. PART 1.

 This is a true life story of love gone sour and a warning to ladies to quietly leave a violent relationship before it becomes their obituary.

It was love at first sight when Chris (Not real Name) sets his eyes on Bose(Not real) Bose a beautiful damsel with a good paying job.

Infact their love was like a made in heaven kind of love, Chris too a young handsome guy with an Fmcg company as a senior manager, wasn't doing badly, both were comfortable in all ramifications.

The love between both souls was so intense that people around then wish to have partners like our love birds, they appear in same dressings on any occasions like they were officially married.

Trouble came knocking one day when Bose came to spend the weekend with her lover, this isn't the first time she will be spending the weekend with Chris, but this day something happened.

It was a busy Saturday for Bose in the house of her lover, as she normally does, cleaned the house, does his laundry and then cook his favorite for him every Saturday. This particular day she got really tired and so dozed off while the soup on the fire got burnt but not a write off .

It was dinner time, My love Bose said to him, please do manage the soup today it got burnt a little as I dozed off on the couch ok. Without a warning Chris launched series of ballistic verbal missiles at his lover Bose, calling her a careless idiot and before you could say hello a very hot slap landed on her face with a return "back hand").

Bose was stunned with her mouth opened wide in surprise while her hands held on to her checks.... To be continued.

MY BEST FRIEND DECIEVED ME, NOW SHE IS MARRIED TO HIM

Who can be trusted? The world is full of people who only on the outward admires and love you, but deep down inside them they are patiently waiting for the perfect time to eliminate you.

My name is Mary 28, and I have a bestie Chioma, indeed she is a sister from another mother that was how I regarded her until she really proved to me an enemy. There is nothing I do without carrying Chioma along, she knows all my plans, knows my parents, my siblings I mean everything about me, she can indeed predict me and be 98% of the time correct.

Then came Steve a tall lanky and handsome young man, Steve fair in complexion with great looks, works with one of these international NGO’s, his outward appearance indicates that life is good to him, from the cars he drives, the cloths he puts on and most especially the way he carry’s himself, surely he must the kind of a guy that will have all the ladies fighting each other just to get him.

Steve and I ran into each other at a supermarket and one thing led to another we exchanged contacts; I think the greatest mistake I made was telling Chioma and also introducing Steve to her. Steve kept asking me out and I kept turning him down, he promised me love and other material things, he brought me gifts, yet I kept turning him down.

My friend Chioma kept asking me not to sign in with him, not to appear cheap to him, that I should keep playing hard to get, that if he truly loves me as he said, he will keep coming no matter how long I keep him waiting. I never knew that there is a limit to how long love can wait, I never know that I was being deceived.

I kept this game of hard to get going, and I was indeed enjoying it, the attentions, I got from him, the pampering, the weekend outing name them, I don’t go outing alone with him without Chioma joining us, even to the cinema and to his house I will always go with my bestie Chioma.

Its been a year now since I have been playing hard to get with the full support of my friend, who will always tell me that its good for a lady to play hard, that it increases the value of the woman and that he will love and respect me the more, all these while I never knew Chioma was giving Steve  attention, care and all of it to Steve, I wish I knew better.

Truth is Steve is a nice guy and I have come to love him, I was just waiting for one last time for him to push forward his demand again, but I never got it, I waited for days weeks and the suddenly 3 months went by Steve never called or text.

I told Chioma about my issues, she only assured me that Steve was trying to relax a bit and get back himself, surely, he will come back to you she assured me. I couldn’t take this no more, so one Sunday evening I paid Steve an unannounced visitation and lo and behold Chioma was laying on the couch wearing a deadly bum-short and a see-through singlet like with no bra, what are you doing here I asked in anger and bitterness? Before she could outer a word, from the room Steve came out wearing boxers and a white singlet, oh it’s you Mary madam hard to get what a surprise visit, ‘are you surprised your friend is here? Well for your information she is my wife to be, in fact she is carrying my baby, and she is 3months gone”.

Steve but why? I asked with my legs wobbling, well she isn’t as tough and hard as you, I got tired of your hardness and the rest is history as you can see.

Well, the only thing I could remember was that I saw myself at the hospital, yes, I was sick inside of me, but the doctors couldn’t diagnose a thing. It wasn’t an easy pill for me to swallow but I had to swallow it as bitter and hard as it was, I had to move on, yeah it wasn’t as easy as any might think, yet I was able to put it all behind me, but I surely learnt my lesson the hard way. That was how I was deceived and betrayed by my bestie due to my ignorant and naiveness.

HE GOT ME PREGNANT, DENIED ME AND THE BABY, 5YEARS AFTER HE WANTS ME BACK.

 I was dating this guy but when I got pregnant for him, his parents forced him to deny the pregnancy and then sent him to the United States leaving me with the pregnancy. 

Two months later, I met another guy who decided to be with me even with someone else's pregnancy. He supported me all through pregnancy and after giving birth, he enrolled me in a training centre and paid for it all. It's been 5 years since we've been together, my whole family knows him.

 Now the problem is, my baby daddy is back. He has apologized to me and he is ready to take me back with his child. I must confess I'm still in love with him. He planned to take us to the States with him which is an opportunity for us. I want to go back with him but I'm afraid to hurt the other guy.

 How do I make him understand that he won't feel betrayed and hurt? He indeed made a lot of sacrifices for me, and it feels sad to be selfish but honestly, he is not my type.

 Right now am so confused I don't know what to do, please I need advice, please.

Confused girl.

SEX IN MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP. (MEN WAKE UP, DRIVE YOUR WOMEN CRAZY IN BED)

I MARRIED FOR SEX

You have to prepare her for lovemaking.

Set her in good mood.

Make her happy.

Settle the quarrel or fight between you both before you make an attempt of touching her.

Make sure you are clean and no sweat from either of you. There is a difference between lovemaking and sex

Lovemaking entails kissing, caressing and others(foreplay)

Sex is just bumping on her. 

African culture does not permit women to complain about their displeasure about the inner room.

We should not be self centered

Why will a man nag about his displeasure in the other room and the wife is forbidden to do so

We have lots of infidelity from both sides because of this

Lovemaking should be enjoyed by both parties.

It is not meant to be managed. 

Do not die in silence! 

Stop the hypocrisy! 

Stop the presence! 

I think women should learn to speak out...... 

"Aaah!"

He had an orgasm as he pushed himself deeper inside his wife. 

He paused on top of her as he took in the pleasure.

He reclined on his side of the bed. Satisfied.

He pulled up the blanket and covered himself, about to sleep.

"Really?

You are sleeping?" She asked him.

"Yes. Goodnight" he faintly said.

"What about my sexual needs?" She asked?????? 

He said nothing.

She pulled away the blanket from him.

"We need to talk" she told him.

He turned to face her.

"What is this about?"

He asked???

"This is about me being sexually frustrated.

Why do you men turn sex into just about you? Husbands like you make their wives feel used to only meet the sexual needs of the man. So you have cum and now you have no use for me? You left my body in the cold

You did not even cover me" she told him.

He looked at her.

"Do you think women do not want sex too?

I need sex! 

I need my orgasm! I need my pleasure! 

One of the big reasons I got married to you is for sex. 

Yes,I married you for love

I married you for companionship

To raise a family To be help mates but also for sex"

He sat up on the bed.

She sat to face him. 

I will not be shy about it. 

I am a sexual and sensual woman

I can not be married and not enjoy sex

Come on!!!!! 

This is marriage

I am entitled to sex with no inhibition. 

I am faithful to you and I thank you for being faithful to me

Faithfulness is not enough

I want an amazing sex life

I want my body to feel things"

He showed her his penis saying.....

Honey, my commando is down

He is down

"So what? 

If he is down you can not give me some sugar? 

You can not hold me and tell me how sexy I am

Lick me

Rub me down Suck me

Squeeze me Besides, there are tricks you can do to delay your orgasm if you are mindful about me" she said.

"Like what?"

He asked.

"Pause

Stop pumping when you feel you are almost cumming

Pull out when you are just about to cum and lick me up

Make me wetter buy yourself time Prolong your pleasure

Do not just pump in a hurry as if you are competing with Usain Bolt to beat a world record"

He laughed......

"Heeyaaa!

 You are laughing and I am sexually starving? 

Take your time. Love making is an art and be my artist

Paint my body with your tongue, fingers and hard commando. 

Do not be stingy. My vagina and clit has needs. 

I wish you men knew how a woman suffers when she is horny and not serviced

It is hard to go away

A sexually frustrated wife is a moody wife

While a serviced wife glows"

Today you have decided to speak your mind" he told her.

"I have to

I am not too proud to beg

One day my body will age

Sex will be impossible

I have a limited time to know what great sex is and only you can give me that as my husband. 

In Heaven, I do not think people will get married. 

So most likely there will be no sex in Heaven. Give me a tiny heaven here on earth

Drive my body crazy" said she. 

"I really love this side of you sexually aggressive. 

A woman who is bold enough to express her sexual needs is a major turn on

I suppose you men tend to only focus on Yourselves sexually because women tend to be passive about sex. Majority of wives are shy

They are too self conscious and just lay there

When you talk with such passion, I am getting hot for you" he said.

She laid on the bed, spread her legs and said "Good! 

Now less talking and more action. 

I am a horny woman in need of her husband. Tonight, take me to another world. Get creative"

He went between her legs and went down on her.

He played with her body

Touching on her.

The more he touched her, the harder he became again. 

They had another round of love making

This time, both she and he enjoyed it

May your marriage have a healthy sex life

Enjoy it while your wetness and hardness lasts.......

From the master himself,

Fso.

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ALL THAT ARE GOLD DOES NOT GLITTER (The Beautiful Love Story of How My Mom Nearly Missed The Love Of Her Life)

In 1982, My father was on a bus when a young lady in a nurse's uniform got on board. When the bus came to a stop, he walked up to her seat & put a 50ngwee coin in her hand & told her he would find her. 

My mom told me that she didn't pay him much attention that day on the bus because he looked old and rugged. At that time my dad had lost his job and didn't have much. He had defaulted on a loan and the bank had seized most of his property. and the toils of this life had worn him down. My mom was scared when this strange dirty looking man put a coin in her hand that she didn't say a word to him.

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My dad knew he would find her because there was only one clinic in the area at that time and so he figured she must work there.

So the next day he went to the clinic to look for her. He did not know her name and So he went to the sister in charge and described her. The sister in charge was so kind that she took my dad round the clinic to meet all the nurses she had on duty that day hoping he would recognize her but alas she was not among those on duty that day.

 After further description of her, the sister in charge concluded that the woman he was seeking was a young nurse by the name of Elizabeth and that she would be on duty the following day. 

My dad bid her goodbye with the promise that he would return the following day.

True to his word...the following day, my dad took the 2 hour walk from his farm to the clinic to find his mystery nurse.

The moment my mom got to the clinic, the sister in charge told her of the man who was looking for her, from the description of the man, my mom knew it was the man from the bus who had given her the coin.

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Around noon my dad reached the clinic, when my mom saw him coming, she was so embarrassed because of his appearance so she hid under a hospital bed. They looked for her but couldn't find her.

My dad chatted with the sister in charge for a few minutes then left.

He went to the clinic the following day & caught her unaware,  he introduced himself to her and spoke to her for some time, told her about himself & his interest in her.

she recalls how he wore the same pair of black canvas shoes that had a hole in them that allowed his pinkie toe to protrude. My mom was so embarrassed,  she couldn't  wait for him to leave.

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He kept on going to see her, sometimes she would tell her friends to lie to my dad that she wasn't around and he would go back. But sometimes he would find her unexpectedly and she would talk to him briefly and then make up an excuse to make him leave.

My dad followed her to the clinic for sometime and then he stopped. He saw she wasn't interested because of the cold shoulder she would give him and he knew the friends where lying when they said she wasn't there. So he stayed away. 

A week passed without him going there, and that started bothering my mom...she would stand outside the clinic looking at the long dusty road hoping to see him coming but he never did...all of a sudden,  his old  canvas shoes with a hole in them he wore each time he went there with the protruding pinkie toe didn't embarrass her no more...She realised she missed him.

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One day she decided to go to the sister in charge, she saw them chatting a number of times after she would blow him off and so she hoped she could help her find him.

The sister in charge who was alot older than my mom, sat her down and told her not to judge people by their outward appearances...she told my mom that she felt my dad was a good man who had just fallen on some tough times and that she should get to know him.

One day as my mom was seated with other nurses in the nurse's station,  she saw a lone figure coming up the long dusty road, it was my dad...oh she jumped up and ran to meet him at the road. She was so happy to see him.

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They spent the afternoon together and my mom told me how happy she was. He wore the same old worn out canvas shoes that had a hole, but that day she was seeing him through the eyes of love...she saw a man who she felt could love her better than the other men who had let her down before.

When he left, the sister in charge sat my mom down and told her about the proverbs 31 woman from the bible. She told her not to look at what he didn't have, but to concentrate on what was there & build from that. She told her that all my dad had was an old house on a farm but if she was wise, that was enough to sustain them. She told her to ask God for wisdom to use that land to be a blessing in his life".

My parents had a traditional marriage shortly after.

On her days off, my mom made a vegetable garden. She would carry the vegetables she grew with her to work at the clinic and people would buy. Her garden grew that she hired farm workers, with the profit she built small houses on the land and put them on rent. 

By the time I was 18, my mom had built 23 two roomed flats on our farm and had tenants. My mom bought cattle and would supply milk to people. 

My mom's exploits motivated my dad to also start farming. He started growing and supplying strawberries to supermarkets. My mom got early retirement from nursing to concentrate on farming, she would supply maize to National mealing and vegetables to shoprite. Together they worked and grew. It was rare to find my mom without my dad nearby.

I saw my parents working together and at the end of the day, I saw them praying together. 

In 2014 When my dad died, my mom asked me to write a tribute from her for his funeral, she told me that she was grateful he didn't give up on her...& that he decided to go back to the clinic one last time. 

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Many people will encounter true love at least once in their lifetime, but many will miss it or already missed it because the love God sent their way did not come in the packaging they wanted. 

Vanity & unrealistic expectations has made many people overlook the person who would have made their stay here on this earth a pleasant one.

They chose to love the wrong person because he or she had the right body, the right job, drove the right car or wore the right clothes & walked passed a love that was truly true just because it did not come in the "right" packaging. 

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My mom almost missed the love of her life because he didn't come in the right packaging...she was embarrassed of his appearance & financial situation & was scared what her family & friends would say.

But thank God for that sister in charge.

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The charm of beauty & the pride of life are often the fortress of loneliness & great sadness.

If u r ever given a choice....please choose someone who brings peace to your life rather than someone who excites you.

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From the Master Story Teller

MY HUSBAND IS A WOMANIZER, HOW CAN I STOP HIM PLEASE ADVISE.

 Dear Readers,

Am really frustrated and depressed, its just 5 years now since i got married to my husband, problem is he womanizes, although he actually takes good care of his family but i hate him sleeping around with other women.

This behaviour of his is really pushing me to the edge, what can i do to make him stop womanizing? is there any solution to this bad habit of his that is tearing me apart? 

Please readers i really need help as this too
is tearing our sex lives apart

Frustrated woman.

Relationship: Tips For Success.

Every one’s dream is to have s successfully relationship, but having a successful relationship doesn't just fall from the sky, there is work to be done, both parties involve have work to do, it shouldn’t be a one-sided thing, it involve commitment in all its definitions.

The following tips may be very helpful to you in improving your relationship (and be better prepared to meet the challenges along the way):

• Talk to each other and communicate your needs – don’t wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on with you, your partner isn’t a mind reader.

• If you have something to bring up, do it gently – going on the attack rarely achieves a positive outcome.

• Listen to each other – often we are so busy defending ourselves or making our own point that we don’t hear what our partner is saying. Let your partner know that you have heard them before you give them your response. It may help to take 5 deep breath before responding.

• Remember the positives about your partner – this helps protect your relationship. One critical comment needs 5 positive comments to counteract its effect. Think carefully before criticizing. If all you do is dwelling on the weakness or negative side of your partner, be rest assured that relationship is doomed already.

• Make repair attempts – if your attempts to talk about an issue don’t go as planned, try not to let the situation become even more negative (such as not talking for extended periods or ignoring the other person’s attempts). Saying sorry or touching your partner in a caring manner shows you care, even though you disagree.

• Spend time together – make your relationship a priority and make time for each other, even if you have to book it in. Regular ‘deposits in your relationship bank account’ will help protect your relationship and make it stronger.

• Work on feeling good about yourself – this will help the way you feel about your relationship.

• Accept and value differences in others, including your partner – we often choose people who have qualities and abilities we would like more of. This is one of the reasons why our relationships offer us significant opportunities to grow and develop as people. Remind yourself of this.

• Make plans – set goals for your relationship and plan for your future together. This shows that you are both in the relationship for the long term.

• Be supportive – try not to judge, criticize or blame each other; we are all human. Remind yourself that you are a team, and in order for the team to be successful, you each have to cheer the other on.

• Learn from arguments – accept that arguments will happen, and try to resolve them with respect. The strongest predictor of divorce is ‘contempt’, which is any action whereby your partner feels ‘put down’ by you, whether it is the tone of your voice or what you say. In arguments, we sometimes become overwhelmed and this often leads to behaviours that harm our relationship. 

• Stay calm during disagreements – or if this is not possible, take time out. Taking an ‘us’ perspective that prioritises the relationship rather than a ‘you and me’ perspective can be very useful.

• Be sexually considerate – be affectionate (sometimes a lingering kiss or a warm hug are just as important). Accept that individuals have different sex drives and sustaining a healthy and happy sex life requires negotiation. A reduction in a couple’s physical connection is often a warning sign of problems in a relationship.

• Be attentive – demonstrate your commitment to the relationship. It is what you do for someone that tells them that you love them. We tend to give our partner what we hope to receive but they may prefer another form of affection. Do they like gifts, quality time with you, a note or a cooked meal? Once you know what they like, make an effort to provide it.

• Enjoy yourself – have fun and celebrate your life together. Rituals can enhance your relationship. It’s also important to try new things as a couple. Doing fun activities together is very important, as often ‘deep and meaningful’ conversations about couple issues can turn into disagreements which leave you both feeling worse, not better. Fun activities are like glue.

• Be flexible – let your relationship grow and adapt as you both change.

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